Willard wrote:
wozeree wrote:
Some are good at social skills, some don't have sensory overload.
I've never heard of an autistic who had smooth social skills. Some are very socially gregarious, but they aren't good at it. They're just unaware of how annoying they are.
And I do believe it's possible to have grown up with autism and be so used to your own hypersensitivity to sensory stimuli that you aren't consciously aware of it, or don't recognize it for what it is (if it's all you've ever known, it would seem 'normal' to you), but it's essentially the definition of the disorder, the one quality that causes all the others, for instance, eye contact becomes uncomfortable because looking into someone's eyes is
too intense a sensation, it feels bad and increases anxiety.
This is a very good point. When we have spent our entire lives trying to fit in and have learned some skills to do it, we can become very unaware of how we really are. People will make comments to me sometimes and I am really shocked because they tell me that I come across in ways that I had no idea that I did.
And eye contact for me is a funny thing. It can be inconsistent. Sometimes I have no problem with it and can keep it for a very long time. I have also been told that I need to soften my gaze. Other times I find it much easier to concentrate on what the person is saying if I don't look at them so it can vary depending on my energy levels or how much sensory stimulus is going on in the room or if I am feeling particularly anxious or nervous.
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