help with my daughter!?

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Since she was 16.5-17 years old she has been convinced that she has Aspergers; she is now 18.5.

I am POSITIVE that she doesn't have it!

What do I do?
Is there something that I look for to prove to her that she doesn't have it..? (or things I should watch for that are signs of aspergers?)

(she is currently diagnosed with ADD, Severe Anxiety, and clinical/catatonic depression.)

If she's so convinced then why don't you see if you can help her with getting a diagnosis.

"try and help her get a diagnosis"
"go to a psychologist"
-we cannot afford to pay for that, if there is a such thing as a free clinic for diagnosing that, then sure I'd bring her.

I am positive that she doesn't have it because she is... "normal".. There is no thing that would make me think that she has aspergers/autism.
She was an easy kid to raise, everybody seemed drawn to her and liked her, when she was little she hardly needed anything -she would entertain and play by herself quietly for hours on her own.
She is a picky eatet, but what kid isn't?

Is there any behaviors that stick out that I should watch for?
(even though she is convinced that she has aspergers, she didn't start acting differently or start any new behaviors. - my friends kid was convinced that he had some syndrome, and thought that it was an excuse to act however he pleased...)

Why don't you start listening to what she says she feels, instead of trying to drum it into her about how you feel.

You are a very selfish parent and your daughter deserves better now f**k OFF! please.

Maybe try suggesting that she join Wrongplanet. If she spends some time here interacting with Aspies, that might give her a better idea of whether she fits in or not. You still haven't said why she thinks she has it. I would be curious to hear her reasons.

I have NLD, which stands for Nonverbal Learning Disability. It is very similar to Asperger's, but is still considered distinct. Asperger's was considered as a diagnosis for me as well, but it was decided that NLD was a better fit. After spending time on WP, I definitely agree with that decision. I can relate to some Aspie experiences, but not all of them. Being a part of Wrongplanet has helped me to clarify my experience and how it fits in with the experiences of others on the spectrum or with spectrum-like conditions.

What are your reasons why she doesn't have it? What symptoms does she lack? Does she have any sensory or social issues or any stimming or routines she must follow? Why does she think she has it?

Going from my son I'd say happily playing on your own for hours could be an indicator of AS. Without having her assessed it's impossible to know for sure. If she is convinced herself I would save for an assessment.
Why not have a look at the diagnostic criteria with her and have a chat about why she feels the label fits?

Aspergers has features which are consistent with ADD, anxiety, and depression. Whether people get along with her or not is irrelevant; what matter is how she felt during those interactions. Just because people talked to her doesn't mean she was at all comfortable.

Solitary play, by the way, is one of the hallmarks of ASD. And there are plenty of children who aren't picky eaters.

To echo other posters, why does she think she does have it?

the criteria docs use for a diagnosis of AS are outlined in this test:
www.iautistic.com/test_AS.php

it will give you something objective to go on. it's not a substitute for an expert's eval, but it can give you an idea if you're in the right ball park.

"cheap or free diagnosis for being in high school or college"
-she graduated high school and is not in high school.

"why does she think she has it?"
I honestly don't remember her reasons, I will bring it up when.she gets off work. (I just recall she found it on the internet..)

the only thing that throws a red flag: (after reading symptom lists)
- she is VERY picky about the clothes she wears, it is the end of the world when I make her wear something she doesn't like (basically anything other than basketball shorts, a t-shirt, and one,of her ratty old sweatshirts. Accompanying that is a pair of converse that she has walked holes through and refuses to throw away, and an old backpack that she wears even though it has no use other than being big and extremely heavy to carry... Every once in a while she will actually put something in it like a book, a phone charger, or maybe food she will actually eat if we are gone for a long time)
-she doesn't take care of herself, she needs to be told to brush her teeth and bathe, etc.
-she doesn't have friends, it has literally been 14+ Months since she did anything with anyone.
-she doesn't like people touching her.

Well there is certainly evidence of rigid thinking, social and sensory issues there.
Does she have any form of income? Could you both save towards an assessment? I am assuming an official diagnosis is important to her of course - is that the case?