Hugs?

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This is something I've been wondering about for a long time...

What's the majority Aspie-view on hugs?

Not being very social is very much associated with the spectrum, same with unwanted physical contact. So what about hugging?

I myself love hugs. I thrive on them with my friends. If I can't hug a friend, something is wrong and I feel alienated and embarrassed. I also like to hug people as initiation of possible friendship—though it often ends up awkward even though they accept (HOW DO YOU SOCIAL INTERACTION?!)

However, I don't often like hugging my family. I'm really hesitant and extremely uncomfortable if a family member comes to hug me. And I'm not sure why!

What do you think?

It depends on the person/situation...I rarely get them and don't initiate, except maybe when my mum is upset.
If it's someone I know very well, is completely platonic and maybe after sharing something personal then it can be welcome. If it is someone I don't know very well who is all "touchy feely" or drunk then I will feel very uncomfortable and angry with them.

I do not care for them. Now if there is a girl I like that would be different.

I love hugs, but I don't give/get them often.

Depends on the person I guess.

Yes, yes and yes!! I love hugs. Especially bear hugs. I love the heat of another person's body, their scent, the feeling of being protected and cared for.
God, I miss this one friend of mine now. She just gives the best hugs.

I love to give and receive hugs. :O)

Most of the time, I cannot stand being touched. But, rarely, I'll feel enough of a connection with someone that it becomes something I enjoy. With those people I can be very physically affectionate. Like I'm trying to make up for what I'm missing the rest of the time.

Don't touch me.

I love hugs but am incredibly shy and have a hard time trusting people. This effectively means that is dependent on the person.

Hug me, hug me!

I can hug my wife and my youngest child (who always wants hugs) with anyone else its just plain awkward. I don't initiate. I am not into hand shaking either, although I am trying to make that more of a conscious habit.

Jason.

I recoil and flinch when touched, which usually offends whoever is displaying affection.

Under the circstances they initiate it (because I'm always too scarred to) and they are on my short list of peole I like touching me I like it. Otherwise no.