Do you find any Autism or AS traits (in others) annoying?

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Just wondering as I have often found that some traits in people who have classical Autism, such as hitting out or pinching food from other peoples plates or stuff really ticks me off.

Also with regards to more HF people I find that when they talk about some of their more negative views or are overly blunt that it ticks me off as well (but at least I can ask them to stop, and normally they comply)

I know that they (the ones of LFA) can't help it and I don't just dislike them 'because they have Autism' (there are a few people I know who are non verbal but as they keep themselves to themselves and do not display any annoying behaviors I get along with them) as it purely the behaviors.

With regards to both of the above I find that individuals on the Autism Spectrum who have lots of meltdowns or otherwise 'bad behaviors' annoy me too.

One of the other guys in my autism program here bunny-hops instead of walking around in his dorm.

Normally, that wouldn't be a big deal, but he lives directly above me, and I can hear him pretty clearly...

I went to special school most of my life with kids who were all over the spectrum and found some of those kids to be very annoying. Just like i find some NT kids in regular school to be very annoying.

I find screeching : whether from autists, Nts, children or adults to be unbearable. The knowledge that they're kids or autistic, doesnt diminish it. It seriously freaks me out.

that isnt just found in severe autism-and have personaly never stole food off anyones plate though as food has always been a big issue for self,the other is a challenging behavior of mine which they try to manage through the traffic light system PECS [am wearing them behind NHS ID on avatar],PECS, makaton, stopping the car;both staff get out and wait, going home,and if its acute enough where am in need of severe restraint;police, have only got one more chance of this as police have said they will only bring KoR to 'a place of safety' aka a sectioned off room in a A&E ward of a hospital and will not be allowed back into community care.

one of the residential homes have lived in was for people with severe challenging behavior,and the other lady living there had severe aspergers.
she pinched food from peoples plates plus hit out at everyone,and she woud home in on anyones weaknesses [mine being noise] and trigger it,with mine she woud scream and watch self/KoR fall to the floor,head bang and go into an epileptic seizure if it went on for long enough,went through that every day for a year until she got within arms length when she was about to scream;knocked her out,got thanked on the quiet by some support staff because of the ridiculous physical abuse she had done to them and the two defenceless lads living there,but was kicked out and moved to a new residential home-instead of moving her away from the poor lads who had spent years being terrorised by her.

however,she might be aspie but she spent years in awful institutions that enabled her to develop these behaviors, had been told by staff that her staff in those institutions had direct orders to not speak to her unless to give her a demand, so she developed challenging behaviors such as projectile vomiting and wiping it in her hair, stripping off naked and running down the street and hitting people plus stealing if she liked something.
had hated her gutts for the damage that had been done to self but at the same time had a lot of pity for what she went through.

challenging behaviors can be lessened by the right teaching to change it,thats why many of us UKers with autism end up being detained in intelectual disability hospitals as they use a acute version of ABA and police style restraint.

as for the original question,have spent entire life around other disabled people in a special school,a special college and then the past decade in institutional and residential care,and have lived with some of the most challenging people around but have never felt this persons behavior is annoying,rather the way that think when hearing screaming for example is that have personaly not got enough tolerance for the noise.

sorry for long post.

Last edited by KingdomOfRats on 11 Feb 2014, 5:24 am, edited 1 time in total.

In one of my jobs I worked with an older guy who had high functioning autism with occasional meltdowns that would make him lose a job and have to start from scratch again. The meltdowns basically included a lot of rage and yelling but he never EVER raised a hand on anyone or hurt anyone. Some of it annoyed me but oddly enough I STILL could relate to him better than any of the NT's I've been working with. It was a lot of fun and a nice break from the norm to have had the priviledge to work with him and i WILL miss him. He got fired because he had a meltdown on the job. Yelled one time too many in front of the whole staff.

As aspies we must try to understand and come from a place of love. EVERYONE needs to be loved (or acknowledged). Most Aspie and autistic ppl don't get nearly half the love they need because NT's don't understand our behavior and dont understand our inability to express that desire. To NT's, we come off as cold, detatched, and uninterested because they do not understand our social cues.

I'm such a hypocrite... But I get annoyed when some aspies on here are extremely black and white thinkers and no one ever agrees with each other because they can't see the grey. Again, I know I'm a hypocrite when I say that because I'm a black and white thinker too, but it still annoys me to see it happen.

I would be annoyed if one walked in my home and started touching and moving things out of place or flicking light switches and slamming things or taking food off my plate in a restaurant. Pen clicking also gets to me and makes me feel like screaming when I keep hearing it. Black and white thinking also annoys me and then them not listening when you try and correct them and point out the gray. Screeching would also annoy me and them not ever letting me talk and going on and on and ignoring my questions and them also expecting me to listen in on their interests and not care if I am tired of hearing about it.

Behaviors that I find annoying are so without regard to whether the person is on the spectrum.

I am just usually more tolerant if I know or suspect they are ASD.

My autistic friend rarely tells me when he's going offline on Skype, and so it makes me really sad/confused when he suddenly disappears. There's not much else about him that bothers me, and I'm incredibly lucky to have him as a friend as we're quite similar. I'm also jealous of him, because despite his classic autism he is more socially successful than I am and has way more friends. I don't have any diagnosis.

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No.

Not often. I am usually less annoyed by people on the spectrum than by people who are not.

I had a brief romance with someone with asperger's a year or so ago. He came to stay with me for a few days. The only thing that he did which was annoying was he kept waking me up out of my sleep at night. Then again I have had people who are not on the spectrum do the same thing. As someone who has trouble with my sleep I get a little crotchety when it's disturbed...

Tired bumble = stressed out bumble = likely to have an upset bumble...

Funnily enough, all the simple words I can think of that rhyme with your username could relate to that situation.

Bumble without sleep = Crumble, stumble, rumble, fumble, jumble, mumble, tumble.

My autistic friend only sleeps for four hours at night and if we've slept together I will be waken up by him having a shower at a ridiculous hour in the morning. I suppose that qualifies for this thread.

Good point. that is something that i would always bear in mind

I can find annoying traits in everyone. I'm just that cynical.

No but seriously, I'd only say so if it's an affront to my own reasonable self-interests. Some forms of stimming can obviously counteract that and are considerably off-putting; screeching, sell-injuring and echolalia can be quite grating to my own senses. Of course, someone that has autism cannot always help it, and for that reason I can be more tolerant of behaviours that annoy me. However autism shouldn't always excuse such behaviours and make them permissible, provided that they're distracting to large groups of people or if it harmful in anyway. Otherwise stimming is fine for me.

Human traits annoy me. I get annoyed when people make chewing noises. I get annoyed with people all the freaking time, autistic and not!