This week has been too much!

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I mentioned earlier that I had a day that was entirely like one big meltdown, but then today (totally unrelated), one of my coworkers was telling me about this woman who acts all clingy toward her and drives her nuts. Then she goes, "her life is so sad..." and she starts listing off all the reasons the woman's life was so sad and it was like she was describing my life down to minute details. (OMG!) Maybe I should be really miserable and unhappy, but I'm just too stupid to be!

I really wish people would stop assuming everything they don't understand is sad though, but that whole conversation was surreal.

What's sad is that some people are so small minded and judgmental that they think anyone who isn't like them is miserable and pathetic.

Your coworker sounds like an annoying and difficult person to be around. She's distracting others and making them uncomfortable at the same time. I'm sorry that you have to be in such close contact with her. Anybody who would take the time to hash out "reasons" why someone's life is "sad" (at work, no less!) needs to re-evaluate how they spend their time. If I were you, I'd avoid her whenever possible and focus on getting work done.

we are the ones who are called unempathetic but people like that continue to judge others completely based on how they-themselves woud feel in the same situation,no open minds no attempt to understand how the person may actualy enjoy their life.

in short,people suck.

This falls in line with the whole "loser" lie.
I think the person was really displaying insecurity and tying to feel better about herself.
Im not sure that people who have a healthy self esteem get off on trashing others.

What a sad person she must be, to feel compelled to dwell on other people's imperfections, in order to feel better about herself. I really feel sorry for her. (Sorry, couldn't help myself! )

It annoys me when people do this!

Assume that something is sad because it is something they don't enjoy or like or think should make someone happy.

People think that I'm sad because I enjoy reading more than 'hanging out' with friends... but they call AS people 'rigid thinkers'...

Ha, thanks for all the support - it's been a rough week!

The woman who was saying the stuff - I don't think she was really trying to be mean, I think she was trying to be sympathetic, but she didn't understand. Part of the problem and the reason that she was discussing it with me was that the woman is very clingy. They used to be in a class together, but the class ended and this woman just keeps calling her, pretty much unwanted. She's always very kind to her, which is probably why she keeps calling back.

Maybe this clingy woman is very sad and complains to her, I don't know, but whatever - people keep reinforcing this idea that other people who are alone a lot are either crying constantly, longing for companionship or plotting to kill somebody. There are SO MANY people for whom this is not true.

The other big one is that if you can't make friends you are a horrible person, not just that you could be a wonderful kind person who sucks at social skills.

Those are two of the problems that I ate most about Autism - and they're not really about Autism, just people's perception of it.