Like with everything else, there are good and bad aspects of having Asperger's/HFA. Obviously, how they manifest themselves depends upon the person.
The key, really, is to (yes, this is a cliche--but it's a cliche for a reason) emphasize your personhood over your so-called "disorder."
I, myself, don't really think in terms of "suffering" from Asperger's/HFA. Nor is it really something shameful, like having a "scarlet letter" or something of that ilk.
I find some aspects of being on the Spectrum irritating, and even hurtful But don't those who have colds find having a cold irritating? Are they ashamed of themselves for having a cold?