What do you want out of life?

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Use this thread to discuss what you want in life. You can also discuss things you value.

I wish to maximize pleasure. My plan right now is to find well paying and fulfilling employment which I think is within sight given my education. The second thing I really want is to find a romantic partner that I like, ideologically and physically. This too is within sight (I hope ) Generally I would try to extract as much pleasure from life as I can.

Employment is a realistic method of earning a living, but of course I would rather just be rich and never work for one day. When you are rich, laziness and decadence (which does not harm others) are virtues. But expecting wealth to the point where you don’t have to work is not very realistic. Still I think wealth would make me quite happy.

One thing I value is wisdom. Studying science and philosophy at university, I think I gained a lot of it. I find that philosophy has liberated me from self deception and folly. I would highly recommend that others study it too, especially people with AS. I am just so much more comfortable with myself now.

How about you?

I don't really know, kinda trying to figure that out....I know I would like a change from how my life is right now, but not sure how to go about that. I've been working on getting SSI in the hopes I could get that income and now that I have medicaid I could get better therapy and such to maybe eventually get to the point where I could work.

But I don't know I don't really want much, I'd settle for being somewhat content and having my own place(even if its small) to where I am in charge of what goes on....I can invite who I want, have people leave when I feel I need some time to myself ect and of course internet access and the ability to watch movies and listen to music would be wonderful.

I want happiness! But I still don't know what it is or what to do to have a happy life and how...

To be at peace

What I really want is to have an exclusive relationship with one male and one female.. a three way relationship where we are equally social and share the same ideals. I don't want to be with someone that is more popular than I am, I don't want to be with someone that is less popular than I am, I don't want to be with someone that is more intelligent than I am, nor do I want to be with someone that is less intelligent than I am. There are more categories that I want to have two equals in, but those categories, like that of popularity and intelligence do not directly relate to personality; I do want them to have distinct personalities and be unique individuals.

I don't know what to call it, but I know it's very irrational. It's hard to describe, but I guess the term 'dream' works.

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To get laid. Ha, nah, I kid. I would like for my crush to reciprocate those feelings toward me though.

I wish I could be an employed writer or an employed band photographer, or paid to write film scripts.

I want to have this screenplay I'm writing now be picked up by a producer and turned into a film.

I want to have a job, move out of this house I'm living in that seems I'll die in and have my mental health issues under control.

Really, I just want to go to an unknown area without having an anxiety attack, especially a venue a band is going to play...in just a couple of weeks.

Just to have a small group of real friends and not be so anxious and feel more happier/relaxed in my job.

Or to have a boyfriend that I really love and he loves me for who I am and we share experiences, which will give me confidence.

I don't ask for much really. I just my life to be a little bit more interesting, rather than having to be on my own most of the time.

To just take each day as it comes, accept my challenges along with my blessings, and do my best to find happiness within the circumstances presented to me.

At the heart....to find MY place in the world.

I grew up through some painful garbage, and I survived by telling myself there was a PURPOSE for all of it and that I could not quit.

Here I am, 45, and still no clue what my place is in this world. Not even a decent job so that just surviving and doing whatever catches my interest at the moment would be enough. Having failed at everything that ever mattered to me, I'm increasingly questioning why I didn't just end it before reaching 18 (other than the belief that suicide is a "sin").

Without a purpose, life IS NOT worth living.

I don't really want anything other than to be financially comfortable enough to pay my bills and eat and buy a few fun things once in a while and not have to leave my house if I don't want to.

There is nothing irrational about this! It is perfectly fine. Emotions alone provide us with reason to live. We all have different emotions and the only ones that must be repressed are the ones that cause harm to others. All else is fine. Fulfilling your desire would harm no one and so it is perfectly fine. Fulfilling your desires, no matter how strange they may seem to others, is wise and morally ok as long as you do not harm anyone. Do not give in to the foolish dogma of our society

Happiness, love, my hobbies, romance, sex.

Sorry to hear you are having a hard time. Life does not have any objective purpose. For something to have purpose there must be intention and nature/evolution has no mind and therefore no intention. I simply go by what I feel. So the purpose of life from my point of view is to get pleasure. That is the most important thing. If you feel likewise then identify the things that give you pleasure and come up with realistic plans to attain them, all the while having realistic expectations.
What is done is done, that you cannot change. Simply focus on doing what is best for the future which to a great extent is up to you. Do your best and be satisfied with whatever occurs. No one can do better than their best (by definition.) Just focus on what you can control. I would recommend reading on Stoic philosophy, it has helped me in hard times. *hug*