Dealing with denial

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I'm tired of my family refusing the fact that I'm disabled and when mentioned disability uses the word illness despite the fact I told them the difference between a disability, handicap and an illness a million times.

They think they know better than me when they refused to read any medical books for years and I've been reading it since I was little in the children's section of my library and I've read it pretty much every single book in there and more.

And I've actually been in special needs programs my entire life.

Even though my family are wonderful people. I'm sick and tired of her turning everything into a tragedy or denial fest. And even when she does believe everything is a tragedy they still doesn't believe I'm disabled I can go to thousands of doctors and specialist shoved the diagnoses and evaluations in their face and make them read it or out loud to them, find a doctor that's actually accurate and knows that I'm disabled and and have him or her, over to our house and tell then directly it wouldn't do any good.

Fact I think if I tried to have it programmed into their brain there brain will throw out the programming code and incinerate it.

They will talk about someone disabled like someone who was told they only have seven days to live. Or some kind of an angel.She thinks autistic people don't have feelings.

And will tell me not to compare myself to them (like the kids in my camp)when i obviously am like them because there one the only people who I could ever completely understand and be like.

And since my grandmother is so old I'm worried about what's going to happen when she passes away was going to guardianship me when I'm older and make sure that I'm safe don't I want to have to go into the adult home that my mom is in my uncle says that he would take care of me but he has his own problems and he is with his wife who is basicly not able to take care of the chart at all and unhealthy to be around because she gets so sick. My uncle can't take care of me on his own because he's a guy and there is no way I am letting my aunt touch me.

My mom also said she would take care of me whether I lived in that adult home that she is in and we would be permanent roommates or she gets out of the home and takes care of me then but what I think she really means is only till I am 18 and believing that I am perfect and can do everything and all of that stuff because she doesn't even believe I'm disabled and she is the most open-minded person in my entire family besides me of course.

They are selling while I had to force myself to not zoned into denial because of them .

I think people will always downplay our troubles when they're not being helpful, but the element of truth here is that while you described your troubles to us here on WP, you put more work than you realized into dealing with things. Your post here is written so much more clearly than the last I read, I had to check to make sure who I was replying to.

Your self-image determines a lot about how your family views you, try to mimic this denial in your own actions for a day and take note of what improves.

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Sadly, a lot of people see mental disability only as hearing voices, hallucinating or something of that sort. Autistic people have the knack to appear normal, and a lot of people just cannot for the life of them understand what we go through no matter how hard we try to make them understand.

Just make sure teachers do understand so you can get through high school much easier.