Social embarrassment

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When someone tries to embarrass you on purpose in a social situation.

Isn't that the worst feeling ever?

what is social embarassment? please can name some examples qawer?
have never felt embarassment nor have any level of social awareness so if people are attempting it have never felt it and am lucky in that respect.

Ditto ^

E.g.,

- Making your actions look stupid by some remark.

- Making fun of you in front of others

- Forcing you to do things out of group pressure

girls seem to do this to each other all the time I've found either you have a snappy come back or be super nice and wave and smile at who ever is trying to embarrass you just because it really pisses them off

Social embarrassment is what happens inside when something goes wrong socially, or you think it has. Like when people give you or each other the funny look that means "you're acting weird" and you have no idea why, it seems to you you're being perfectly normal. But they have that odd look on their face and then may steer you in a different direction or get mad. The look that says "I can't believe you're for real!".

No. Loss, real fear, panic and trauma are all worse.

That said, social embarrassment feels pretty dreadful but it's not the worst feeling ever.

Yep, it is pretty darn awful. The only saving grace is that is exposes the one who did it as a bully and as someone it is not emotionally safe for me to be around.

How the group reacts to the bully's ridicule, mockery, or whatever, is also telling. I can usually count on the fact that I do not rate highly on the Respect Meter of those who laugh at or otherwise go along with it.

True.

My point was more that social embarrassment can lead to emotional trauma/fear.

Oh the above is correct. These are ones current one's my husband said.

Someone's grandma died. She was old and had cancer. Instead of sorry for you loss, they get *well she was old and had cancer, she WAS going to die soon.*

A family member is really upset. Person says they feel so stupid. They get *well it's no crime to be stupid.*

The above is social embarrassment. My husband misread the situation. Said the wrong thing at the wrong time, and is now considered and utter douche bag by two people. The whole thing was so awkward, I wanted the floor to swallow me up. He was shocked and upset by everyone's reaction. He didnt mean to come off as a jackass, but that is how thr statements were perceived.

I have had to memorize and rehearse saying "sorry for your loss" in such situations. I try to say it then shut up before I keep talking and say something awkward.

I don't think I feel embarrassed... More like stressed and annoyed that I have to be in a social situation to begin with. I try to blend and not be noticed, but if people start giving me disapproving looks... Yeah, I'm just annoyed by their narrow-minded view of how a person ought to act, rather than embarrassed.

[EDIT:] When I was younger, and undiagnosed, and trying so hard to fit in... Yes, I was pretty much constantly embarrassed, and ashamed of myself.

I don't remember the last time I was embarrassed in a social situation. If people are being pricks to me I generally laugh and disregard what they are saying. Unfortunately, I can also be a prick without realizing, in a joking manner, not trying to hurt someone.

But in any case, if someone is intentionally trying to give you a hard time they are being pricks and you should try to not be affected by what they say. Even if there are many of them, idiots in great number are still idiots. If you honestly see their actions as ret*d (which is actually true) you will not care, in fact it will be funny. I am sure of this. So the only thing to do is start seeing stupidity for what it really is and not take it seriously. If someone really wants to hurt and is not just joking then tell them to piss off and not mess with you again.

It isn't easy to change the way you think but it can be done. Seeing stupidity for what it really is, is important.