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10 Feb 2014, 1:26 am

I met with a couple of acquaintances, a husband and wife, I have known for a while, but have not met much recently. It was at a doughnut shop, which was noisy. I noticed I had difficulty following what they were saying and had to often ask them to repeat. When I went to a topic known and of interest to them and me, however, I had an easier time. I was more open to them about my issues and they respected that. We left with a promise to chat on FB and meet again.

After getting home and being absorbed in activity by myself, my mum called on the phone. I found her voice very irritating and wanted to get off the call. I also started thinking about all sorts of other negative stuff during the conversation. It was like the pitch and timbre of her voice were burrowing deep within me, like I had to defend myself against the sound. I've had this issue at other times with other people when they talk.

I guess I just got kinda burnt out, tonight.


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10 Feb 2014, 6:20 am

I too have horrendous problems focusing on a conversation while in a noisy environment, and even if I seem to cope well with it at the time, I always wind up paying for it later in increased accumulated stress, so that later something else I might normally have coped well with also, I just can't cope with.

So, knowing I get like that and assuming that there might be others like that too, my take on your day is that even though the doughnut shop encounter with your friends went well mostly, the bit of stress it caused when you had problems with the ambient noise levels stuck with you and later came out as less tolerance for your mother's voice on the phone. Even if that voice normally would cause you some sensory discomfort, it caused a bit more than usual because you already had some discomfort starting to accumulate "in the bank" so to speak, from the noise in the shop earlier.

I could be all wrong about that, but that's the kind of thing that happens to me and how it works with me. I can go through my day being in situations that are less than comfortable for me sensory-wise, but I deal, and I deal, and I deal with it, but it's like I'm accumulating more and more annoyance inside myself, or conversely I'm spending more and more of my available tolerance, that later on I have none left. So, the next thing that comes along that is a sensory issue or otherwise stressful for me, I've got "nothing left to give" and I can't handle it.

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10 Feb 2014, 9:09 am

beneficii wrote:
It was like the pitch and timbre of her voice were burrowing deep within me, like I had to defend myself against the sound. I've had this issue at other times with other people when they talk.

Same here. My mom makes a really harsh "S" sound, and I love her but sometimes I just can't take it!



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12 Feb 2014, 9:33 pm

Well, I spoke to my endocrinologist today who said I don't look autistic because I present myself so well in conversation. He said he wouldn't have thought of me as autistic.

Anyway, as I returned to work today after some FMLA yesterday, my sensory issues seem to have gotten worse again, as every little sound seems to really annoy me--and I can't shut it out.


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12 Feb 2014, 10:04 pm

Listening to this seems to help:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6Vi3uRZPhw&noredirect=1[/youtube]


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13 Feb 2014, 8:15 pm

My sensory issues seem better today. These issues seem to come and go. Nevertheless, I can't find any reason, because last night when I had them I had been eating and drinking well and sleeping.


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16 Feb 2014, 5:32 pm

Certain peoples' voices or the way they talk get on my nerves, but I don't know if its the same as your problem.