Can someone talk to me?

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Hello, it's me again.

I'm here to tell you on how frustrated I am due to the fact that I can't engage in a conversation with anyone. My field of interest is highly specialized that I can't find anyone on whom I can talk to freely without the fear of me sounding like a total nerd. One common thing people usually tell me when I'm explaining something in my field is "Dude were on earth, not on computerland."

I'm frustrated at the fact that I can only say one word like "Yeah", "U-huh", "Sometimes" and what not when talking to new people.
I'm also frustrated at the fact that it takes me a while find the words when talking to someone (or typing this).
Also I hate the fact that I have to make canned replies just to prevent me from sounding stupid.

Well that's all. I'm not sure though if I'm posting at the right board.

I don't understand.
are you asking for help or just want to talk about it or do you want someone to talk to?

Funny, I don't know what I want either. I'm not asking for help, I just want to talk to people who can relate to me.

I don't know what your special interest is, and I don't know if I know anything about it, but I am always happy to learn new things! I do so love learning.

Ergo if you want someone to chat to or would like someone just to talk about your special interest to my email box is always open.

Hi, I'm gonna send you a PM now.

I live in computerland a lot of the time.
Maybe I can relate.

Don't feel bad about the canned replies.
You'll get a larger repitoire as your get older and develop it, they'll start sounding more natural the more you use the, and eventually you'll have the makings of just about any conversation you end up in.
At least, that's how it went for me.

Aside from that: confidence is key.
Just reply to people, say what you think, don't worry too much about it.
If you're smart, and sound confident, people will listen, even if it's total BS that you just came up with.

I'd be happy to talk to/chat with you any time, just drop me a message.

Have you looked at Skype?

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postxf222558-0-45.html

I would like to go to computerland.

Hello, Artemize.
It seems you have some scripts you memorized to say to people, which is good.
Are you able to talk freely and easily about computers?

i know how you feel, im monosyllabic (if i talk at all). and have my responses and reactions rehearsed.

If I get comfortable with them, then yes. I especially with someone who has deep understanding with my interests.

You have to find people who like computers too! It's no good talking to people who don't like them, or who don't like them as much as you do. They'll just be bored. If you want to practice socializing, do it with people who share interests, and it'll go easier on both sides.

It's actually really hard to find someone who genuinely like computers. People usually synonimize Computers for Computer Gaming, which i do to sometimes but I still have to find someone who deeply understands Machine Learning or Computer chip designs and what not.

Hey, buddy. It's ok. You are like me when I was 18. I wish I were as lucky as you and knew that I had AS back then. Are you seeing a therapist? Ask him to help you to adjust to the NT world. I promise you it will save you a lot of grief and you'll be a lot happier. I lost my 20s and 30s because I didn't know I was Aspie. Now I know and it's been life-changing with the help I've been getting. That's what I want for you! In the words of Morpheus from The Matrix, "You can make it" -- if you work on change. Since you are obviously above average in I.Q., I know you can do it. Peace, brother.

Speaking of therapists. No. My mom wouldn't believe me that I have aspergers, Since she too was unsociable at my age and that I look completely normal (aside from the fact that she complains about me that I should be like the other kids).

Hmmm. That is bad. Parents can be very un-parent-like sometimes. You know what I say? Do your own thing. Go to the school counselor, or Google someone to get an appointment. Just move forward. You're too important a person to give up.