Isolation = less exhausting = good

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I have come to the decision that I will have as much alone time as possible. My reasoning is that when I am isolated, I can learn better, I am less stressed and fatigued, my mental health improves, and my scientific curiosity increases.

So is it a good idea for me to greatly restrict social interaction? (I live in supported housing atm, not for long, but I can stay in my bedroom or take a bus to the medical library at the hospital).

I don't think too much isolation is good. You lose social skills not practicing.

Meh. Stages.
I've had vast stretches of life where "isolation" - which we don't really get, because at some point we need to go out and get toilet paper, and interact with the store clerk in at least a minimal fashion - was and /or would have been good for me.

If you do strive for isolation, you won't forget what you've learned already (learn to ride a bike, and you never forget - barring injury) but be sure it doesn't end up a lifelong pursuit.

We are in some fashion dependant on social interaction. But life is pretty long, and we're all going to go thru different development steps and have different needs at points in our lives. If you need it, do it. When it gets repetitive, break it.

EDIT: what you might lose is established contacts/friends. THAT is where you need to be weighing the dangers. But if you're talking about skipping the bar on Friday nights, well hell, I never understood the point (social benefit) of the bar anyhow, so I'm not going to encourage NT levels and choices of super-socializing.

Waterfalls is in some ways correct.
I am an isolationist my self,
The thing is the longer I am isolated from social interaction the worse my social anxieties becomes. sure I feel less stress when people are not around, but it gets far worse they they are.

I enjoy solitude as well, and don't see anything wrong with it.

Moderation in all things.

I understand the motivation to self-isolate completely, I'm far more productive when I'm single, I do a better job on concentrating on my skills, learning, adhering to comfortable routines, and have far more time and control over my world.

But, isolation is both lonely and my social skills regress somewhat (though never completely). Just in my daily SMS/IM interactions with friends far away I maintain my abilities to have NT-compatible conversations, to force myself to remember that other people have unique experiences and thoughts and processes different than my own. In my 30-second interaction with the grocery-store cashier I'm forcing myself to try to make a moment of eye-contact and to ask someone about their day. I halt regression and keep myself able to handle things in the real world.

"Moderation in all things" has long been a great thing for me to remember, even when I was frustrated with situations and people. Think about it

Moderation is wise. I don't want to shut myself off 100%. I just want to keep interaction to a basic minimum. The people that live here are idiots anyway. I have a good friend who I will see once a week for an hour or two. And we text. Texting / Internet is fine.

Also need alone time after excitement, or else I become really upset...

Last year I greatly cut back on my otherwise forced level of social interaction. I am now much less stressed.

About once a week or so I get the itch to be around people and interact a bit. Fortunately a local coffee shop where acquaintances hang out is next to my grocery store. I can pop in there for a tea, sit around for a bit, maybe give a nod of acknowledgment to a person or two, maybe briefly chat with someone. Then I go do my weekly shopping and interact with store clerks.

That, along with a weekly family phone call and maybe the odd email or phone conversation with acquaintances, and my social needs are nicely met for the week.

I prefer isolation. The internet is enough socializing for me.

Being with others or on my own is no difference of me in terms of being exhausting. I don't find social interaction exhausting, just very confusing. Focusing on something I am not interested with for more than 2 minutes or studying are really exhausting activities to me.

I think it's a good idea to limit anything that is tiring and/or stressful because if you don't you will experience burn out at some point. It doesn't make that much difference for me, I feel exhausted either way, for different reasons. So I would say if you know you feel better and function better by isolating yourself, go for it.

society makes rules, neurotypicals make rules , rules they promote by teaching children, by tv, movies , rewards, punishment etc. how ever their ways,
never mind it all,
be yourself,
go inside self, and who really are , be, if being alone, happy, like, want, that do,
do according want, with no influence or expectations influence from outside self
good, you are, how you are, how creator made you,
some people were made social, some not,
some think one way some another
some speak some not,
some in quiet solitude create, or think or, just be happy and by being happy putting positive energy into world , this positive energy needed greatly and effects all around, affects world mother earth, and all creation around happy vibration person, much good doing by sitting doing "nothing" or by doing whatever makes happy, isolated or not, isolation can be very good, some have always , some and mystics also going into wild places staying alone with nature etc. , only society who wants to control people, control peoples thinkings and beliefs and doings and etc.
society makes rules, and all have free choice to accept or not those rules, , slave to society or free people making choosing from inside selves,
world needs real self people,

this think,