why do blank eyes bother people so much?

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Apparently I have emotionless eyes/ stare but why does it bother NT's so much? For example, in class my teacher said that my facial expression was concerning, people say I look mean because of them, and people avoid me because of them. Another time i had an internship and the women followed me around insisting that I wasn't engaged. Then she started getting mad and asked me "why are you so difficult to read?" Why does this matter so much? What is the big deal about always having an expressionless face/ eyes?

NTs have this obsession with knowing what other people are thinking. It's part of their nature. If they can't tell what you are thinking that scares them because they can't predict how you will behave. Kind of like how Aspies get freaked out with changes in routine.

Recently I was in a situation and apparently my body language didn't reflect what I was saying, and people thought I was judging them when I wasn't. Another time I smiled when I said something and they were like ya as you smile at that and I'm like I'm not happy about the situation. Its frustrating. I thnk the whole eye contact thing is stupid personally. I hate eye contact.

I get this a lot. I generally have expressionless eyes. Unless I am very comfortable with a person I appear quite blank, then again I'm also quite blank with people I am comfortable with depending on what the subject is.

When people comment on my eyes, they usually tell me I look like I'm deep in thought about something or stoned. Though, someone I had some classes with during my freshman year of highschool described me as "always eerily calm" one day after a chair was thrown at the person next to me. I'm just not very expressive and I knew the chair wasn't aimed at me so I saw no reason to do anything other than turn up my music and try to tune out the shouting.

The same year, another student said he didn't think I had any emotions and I still think that was a really odd thing to say...

Asking why NT's put so much emphasis on body language communication is like asking why gay people prefer people of their own gender. It's who they are.

I always found this cartoon kinda ... uncanny valley er something....

Nonverbal communication is based on socialization (just like one should do with their puppies).

Anything that inhibits early socialization basically ruins the individual's social life (even for puppies).

So, if I have poor socialization but when I'm socializing it doesn't "bother me", then it must annoying the foo-foo out of them. Otherwise it wouldn't be a social problem.

It's because NTs rely on the eyes for many non-verbal cues-hence why eye contact is so important to them. "Emotionless" eyes don't offer much in terms of expression. When people can't easily read someone's expression, they get nervous because they have less of an idea of how the person feels about them. They will then need act cautiously around that person since they can't predict how the person is going to act. It's really a fear of the unknown.