is body language important in making friends?

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What type of body language is important in making friends?

I don't think there any one kind of body language that I am aware of that gonna help you make friends. now keeping them. That can be another matter.

Unfortunately body language is extremely important in social imteractions. If you dont have it right you will never make many griends. I'm living proof of this.

I honestly don't know. Most of the friends I have made over the years have come from two things; being in the same situation as them (school, work, etc) for a significant period of time, and sharing some of the same interests with them (in my case, mainly video games and "nerd" culture).

Now, as far as talking to NTs *in general*, try giving them some eye contact, and give them a bit of "breathing room" as well (6ft of distance between yourself and them is good in most situations). Don't be afraid to act like yourself, but just keep in mind that most NTs find it uncomfortable to talk to people who are right in front of them (which is sort of paradoxical considering how much they seem to enjoy poking and prodding one another ), and many NTs have a hard time listening to people who aren't looking in the general direction of their faces, as far as I can tell.

No, it's not important - it's essential.

But don't worry, you have more of it than you realize.

how is it essential? Do you have any examples?

I think body language can play a big role with this sort of thing. Sometimes it is the way you do things too, even something small like tying a shoelace. You can't ever explain in words about how a person does something so simple, but it's something people can just sense.

I believe a lot of my issues with making new friends is body language. I have no trouble reading their verbal and non-verbal vibes, but I seem to give off a very shy, nervous vibe that screams out ''I am boring!'' I sort of give off a standoffish vibe too, because I get too afraid to speak up. But I think it's also my words. When I'm in a situation where I am in the spotlight and everybody's actually listening to me, I suddenly lose all my words and I start babbling or starting sentences and not finishing them, then having to say ''ohh, you know what I mean.'' I think it's because me being the most socially important person in the room is rare for me, so I suppose no wonder I do get very nervous.