How often do you have meltdowns?

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I used to have them all the time. The last time it happened was Thanksgiving last year.


-SpaceCase

I get them when I am REALLY stressed out or sometimes when I'm not. Since I've been taking medicine they don't happen as often or if they start happening I can stop them before they progress. Not sure if what I consider a meltdown is the same as your definition.
I think the last time I had a significant one was at Lambert's (home of throwed rolls). I had never been there before and the place was loud and the walls were covered in signs and stuff and the layout felt crampped and on top of that I had to decide what I was going to eat, which is the one decision that triggers the most meltdowns for me. So when we get to the booth I withdrawl and don't say much and I can't figure out why I feel the way I do plus I'm crammed on he inside of the booth against the wall. When the food comes I start feeling clostrophobic and have to move to the outside of the bench where I finally become comfortable and dig into my chicken and dumplings (which were AMAZING).

Does 'meltdown' mean showing the distress? Because I would say every time i go out, but usually I can hold on till I get home.

Family reunions, family dinners at Christmas or Thanksgiving.... basically anything having to do with my extended family. ie- my Mom, my sisters, my bro, in-laws and other family.

I can handle them one on one- but put them all together in a group and something BAD happens. They inevitably make fun of me, or my son (who has autism) or do something that really offends me to my last nerve. Then on top of all of that most of them drink and I've noticed that they are so demeaning and insensitive when they drink.

After what happened in 2005, hubby and I decided to avoid ALL family get togethers with my family. Thanksgiving/Christmas 2006 was so much better and all because I didn't have to deal with their antics.

too often

only in certain situations when people keep pressing me (unless you're including just feeling overwhelmed in general and having a good cry about it in private... then it's every week sometimes)... publicly, i can generally withdraw enough to supress them... but all it takes is one person noticing me and being like, "what's wrong???" thus putting me at the center of everyone's attention.

this happened not long ago and i ran crying from someone's house (they had guests over whom most i'd never met too, yay) and what's worse, the person won't talk to me anymore... even though they were the one being mean towrds me. i aplogoized and evrything just caues of the other people that were there.

what can you do?

play WoW, I say

middle school, which was years ago, was the last time i had what, looking back, i would call a meltdown.

Lately I've been having one every day. They usually aren't as frequent, but I'm being verbally assaulted by neighbors all the time. It's to the point where I have to hide my car across town so they won't mess with it. (Damn hip-hop gangsta' wannabe society).

Then again, the "meltdowns" were more frequent before the neighbors became this big of an issue. I'm going through a rough point, I guess.

I often have a meltdown from stress at work or when confronted with many people. I had one about three weeks ago when confined to an enclosed space and a big congregation of people. And, yes, my friend did ask "What's the matter?" which also made matters worse because I realized my meltdown was visible. I was a wreck for a week.

I'm getter better at recognizing the signs and triggers and handling the onslaught to minimize the damage. I was starting to get unnerved this week at work, but managed to get a grip, relax and get through it.

Whenever I become too stressed or overwhelmed, and if my routine is abruptly interrupted. Too often really for my liking.

It's been less frequent... almost nonexistent... but I've got a family that's helped me avoid those kinds of situations there.

The only thing that really causes a meltdown for me nowadays is when people approach me about my gender issues.

Bad memories can trigger it.. Other stuff like a car or motorcycle speeding down the road when I hear it is me having bad boundries with other people.. other people in the house I live in who are unloading a dishwasher, making clanging noises is annoying.. (I could do it myself but my relfexes are too slow to feel motivation for that kind of stuff)... Short periods of time to release my meltdown energy is clenching of teeth a few times. Currently, its been almost more than twice a week.. I see it helpful if I take a little walk when it is 5:00 a.m as this season it is still dark early in morning(hopefully no weirdo's watching me and no cop-cars to interogate me at that time).

I also get angry if I think that others peoples thougths and opinions shapes the world that I live in. I do not like feeling dominated by other peoples petty beleifs / feelings. I live in a very outward reality. I like things external. But I try to be that way as best as I can, really...

when i was a little kid. when i lived w/ my dad, his wife (who called herself my mum) thought she knew me better then i knew myself. she used to force me to do every bit of homework i got as soon as i got home from school no matter what. she would make me do work i just couldn't do. i remember i could not sound out words like "there" and she would make me look at it for what felt like hours. she would make me study until i cried, then let me take a 5 min break. and even after me falling she still didn't get it.
when i was 11 or 12, i moved back w/ my real mum. she was much less involved in my school. she didn't force me to do homework, or study, or anything. she would let me just watch tv, and do nothing. that is what i always wanted and still want to do. anyways when i started going to school again, i started doing real good because it was so easy when i was relaxed. i could just sit in class and be quiet, then ace the test. i never did tedious homework. i still remember i could not pass French though. the teacher would say the french words out loud and show a pic of it. i couldn't think of 1 word english word to assign to these pics, little on the sound of the french word to its meaning. then on the test she marked spelling. so i had no idea what the word meant, or how to spell it, and was tested on it. man it was so frustrating. i stopped going to french class and was later exempted from it.
so yeah now i have a very relaxed life, no worries, no obligations, no responsibilities, and no melt downs.

On average once every two weeks.

wednesday

before that I'm not sure, it's almost always brought on by change