Cannot be consoled by others

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I've submitted for the insurance preauthorization for sex reassignment surgery, but I'm ready to have had it done yesterday. In the past, whenever I've tried to find anyone to console me on stuff, I find that I am inconsolable and that in fact attempts to console me just leave me feeling weird and confused. So it's like I'm going to burrow into my little shell for the duration until something new can come of this, which will take 45 days.

Of course, the insurance company may give preauthorization or they may not. If it's the latter, then I will have the fight of my life on my hands.

hope manage to get the surgery without a fight,though everything needs fighting for these days,best of luck with it! its horrible being unable to relate to the body are in,am in a similar position waiting to get a certain lifelong distressing part of body removed on NHS but have no understanding of gender due to ID and level of autism so seem adrogynous to others rather than ftm,because of that gp thought its BDD.

who is that handsome tomcat in the avatar?

That can't be fun. Really, hang in there. Paperwork and people scrutinizing you, and about something so important to you, too. I'd be going bananas.

You can probably console yourself, though? I mean, when I'm upset and anxious and whatnot, I don't go to other people either. Socializing just stresses me out more. I go find a quiet spot and rest, or do something I like to do, to distract myself. Bet you could do that. Very much like a cat... when they are upset, they find a quiet, small spot, and scrunch themselves into it, and tuck their paws under, and bunch up until they feel better.

That's our family cat Charlie!

Thanks all, for this. About the specific issue of waiting, unlike the issue of expanding coverage to those who need it, I think this Japanese phrase fits the situation perfectly:

しょうがない。

I just hope that before surgery I don't have to go to anywhere where they separate you based on your current genital configuration, like a hospital.