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SnowMaiden
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03 Apr 2014, 2:13 pm

I hate when people hug or kiss me on the cheek as a greet or touch me at all. It doesn't matter if it is a friend or a family member, it feels unnatural. I wish I could overcome this because it upsets my parents that I don't allow them to touch me and they begin to think I was sexually molested as a kid :roll: (I wasn't!!). Can anyone relate?



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03 Apr 2014, 2:17 pm

Skin to skin contact had always been a problem for me. even making a handshake had never been comfortable for me. I remember as a kid that the only time I would hug my mother was when I was wearing my fuzzy pajamas with the cowl on which isolated me from and s2s contact.



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03 Apr 2014, 2:32 pm

Definitely, it's always super extremely awkward and unpleasant.

Although it can be different when you are a bit drunk and you are with someone you're attracted to. Still a bit weird tho.



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03 Apr 2014, 3:12 pm

I don't mind it, but things like cuddling tend to feel restrictive to movement and strange.



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03 Apr 2014, 3:17 pm

I don't like touching either. My dad grabbed my phone to watch a video I wanted to share with him and his hand touched mine and I felt horrible and said "don't touch me" under my breath.


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03 Apr 2014, 11:23 pm

Touching feels just yucky. If anybody touches me between my shoulders and neck I jump up like somebody shocked me. Most people do get offended when you react negatively to these gestures.


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04 Apr 2014, 12:24 am

I only like to be touched by a lady I'm attracted to. Otherwise, it pretty yucky. I recoil when I'm touched.



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04 Apr 2014, 2:17 am

I'm not a fan of physical contact either. I don't like being hugged, I don't like having my hand held, and I especially abhor being poked or prodded. I don't get why NTs seem to love it so much, to me it just feels like an invasion of my personal space.



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04 Apr 2014, 5:26 am

This is a big set back for me, having to shake hands makes me feel awkward and even worse hugs and kisses. No-one in my immediate family have ever given any physical contact like that to myself so I don't even have any experience of it. I use to have a work colleague that insisted on high fiving me all the time. But yes I am sure there are many others that feel unnatural with contact.


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04 Apr 2014, 5:48 am

Thank god. I thought I was the only one. I thought I was a freak. I read that compliments are a form of affection. Since NTs seem to love affection, I try to compliment them a lot. But I absolutely cannot stand being touched. Unless I'm dating someone, then I like holding hands.

I had a couple of massages in the past. One masseuse kept telling me to relax and asking me why I had a strange look on my face. I was so uncomfortable. It felt like the other masseuse was killing me. Every time she touched it hurt bad.

When I was a kid I had an aunt who was always touching me. Putting her arm around, touching my head. I would tell her your hurting me. She'd look at me like I was crazy. But she finally stopped.

Also, I'm always cold. I think my skin is very sensitive.



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04 Apr 2014, 11:31 am

I didn't allow this as a kid and my parents got it fixed and now I can tolerate it for a few seconds. I still don't understand why not wanting to be touched is an issue. So what if someone doesn't want to be hugged or kissed. People just freak out when something is different about a person so they feel the need to get it fixed.


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04 Apr 2014, 11:55 am

I don't always like touching other people because I keep on thinking it might annoy them, even if it's socially acceptable at the time. I think this stems back from when I was a teenager in High School, my ''friend'' wasn't speaking to me suddenly and when I asked her what was wrong she said it was because I kept touching her on the arm. I wish she had of just said so at the time, instead of falling out over it and not talking to me. I think the unnecessary hostility from the situation had set me back, and so even to this day I avoid touching people.

I like being touched myself though. It makes me feel socially connected. Although a few weeks ago I was looking sad (because I felt sad about something), and one of my colleagues reached out her hand and touched me on the shoulder, and I jumped away. Normally I don't react like this when somebody touches me because I like being touched, being touched has never bothered me. Maybe it was because I was feeling emotional that day, and sometimes when I'm holding back tears and somebody shows affection, I burst into tears, and I don't always like crying at work if I can help it. I explained that to her afterwards, and she was just concerned that touching me might of been offensive to me. I told her it wasn't, but I did feel awkward.


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04 Apr 2014, 12:54 pm

I'm not a touchy person either, I prefer to reserve any physical contact for immediate family members.

Don't like handshakes or the whole hi and a hug thing - I tend to avoid them if I can.


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04 Apr 2014, 7:23 pm

dc2610 wrote:
I had a couple of massages in the past. One masseuse kept telling me to relax and asking me why I had a strange look on my face. I was so uncomfortable. It felt like the other masseuse was killing me. Every time she touched it hurt bad.

I once made an appointment with a masseuse because I realized that no one ever touched me. I came to think of myself as an "untouchable." I cancelled the appointment though... I thought about the upcoming touching constantly, and became afraid I'd react wrong... maybe cry even. That was decades ago... nothing has changed.


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04 Apr 2014, 7:25 pm

touching peoples' foreheads feels the weirdest


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04 Apr 2014, 8:58 pm

I hate being touched and I really hate when people are doing it casually and I start hissing or growling.

Unless it's with a romantic partner, then you can do it any time you want. :P


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