Post RULES for STAYING SAFE

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I'll start:

Never give anyone your bank P.I.N. number even if they are a friend or someone that most people trust like a police-person.

Use a condom, always.

Don't yell "Boo" at cops:

Never go to a party involving alcohol without a pre-designated driver.

If you have medical problems, carry information or medical bracelet on you always in case someone needs to help you (for example epilepsy, dissociation, asthma, diabetes, etc.)

If possible, always carry a mobile phone in case of trouble.

When going out, walking may not be the best option, but if you have to, do not walk home alone in the dark. Keep to well-lit, busy streets, main roads and footpaths. Avoid badly lit areas, parks, alleyways and underpasses.

Use potholders when lifting hot pots and pans. Always. Even if you are just lifting them to a surface inches away.

(Once I didn't and the pain was excruciating and the burn took >2 weeks to fully heal.)

When out:

Stay about a meter away from everyone
don't turn your back on people; walk and sit in a way that you can see everyone
know where the exits are, and don't dwell around dead ends where there's no exit (whether indoors or out)
avoid public transport
carry something akin to a Swiss Army knife, always
put extra medication in your wallet if you're on such
know where you are; don't go to places you're unfamiliar with (if you must, look up maps and directions so you know where everything is)
keep a list of basic commands you can show people if you lose speech (autism card)
be wary of anyone asking you for help/something out of the ordinary

Watch your drink when at a bar. Somebody could spike your drink when your back is turned.

Remember Amsterdam has both trams and cycles - look out for both before crossing the road.

In workplaces, shops, medical practices, hospitals, etc. that you visit regularly, try to be nice and smiling with the various "support" persons you interact with (receptionists, secretaries, security guards, cashiers, nurses, etc.) It is not about creating relationship, just be very polite and respectful (unless, of course, you have a good reason not to be). In that world you never know when some unexpected situation can develop, and when it happens it can really help to have the various persons in the viscinity that identify you as a "nice person".

Do not use headphones while riding a bike.

Don't let anyone talk you into giving them money. People asking for money are always manipulative (I mean people who actually engage in conversation with you, not the random homeless person begging in the street or the subway). If you want to give money to someone or an organization that is OK of course, but always make sure this is your decision.

Learn self defense. Some sort of actual self defense that will work in all situations and not just in a dojo with others of your belt rank while the sensei is looking. Learn when to use it and just as importantly, learn when not to use it and when to just walk away. Unless you are very good at it, the best option is walking away, every time, especially from a stranger because you have no clue what he can and cannot do, or if he's armed.

If you are able to, and do not have an anger problem or an impulse control problem, buy and learn to use a firearm and get a CCP if your state allows them. If you do this, remember that you NEVER pull your weapon or point it at someone unless you are fully prepared to shoot and kill them. Never, ever shoot at someone unless you are prepared to kill them, because even though you very well may not kill them, you also very well may.

Always follow your gut instinct. If something or somebody just doesn't feel "right" then they probably aren't. Stay the hell away from them/there.

You never have to make an excuse for saying no, leaving, or walking away from someone.

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Not everything that pops into your brain needs to exit your brain. In other words, your "opinion" will usually cause more trouble than it is worth the effort to share it. It is even possible your opinion can get you killed. No one can stop you from believing anything you want to believe but some people can stop you from sharing what you believe, and WILL.

Opinions really are like as*holes. Everyone has one but that doesn't mean everyone has to stick it in other peoples face.

I had read somewhere that Aspies don't typically sense dangerous or threatening situations the way NT people do. It is true for me. I don't eben think about where I go, even at night. I never feel threatened by any situation. Many times I walk right out in street to cross without even thinking about looking. It doesn't even enter my mind that any human being would want to harm me. Despite what I wrote about "opinions" before, my comment was mostly experience that really, for the most part, no one cares. People just want to be heard. I look at some of these replies, and I don't mean any disrespect, it's just how my mind works, but people seem really paranoid in a lot of these comments.

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example of another as*hole with a worthless opinion.