What irks me is that people say I talk about myself a lot.
Um I want to talk about paleolithic nutrition during the course of which I may mention the version of the diet I am doing and why I choose to do it that way, but as a way of being informative (there are different versions of the diet and one person may be suited to one more than another. I will also provide information about versions I am not doing if required or if the person is interested in personally tailoring their eating program and I can help). I also like to play piano these days and am sometimes looking for suggests for music books (music theory or composition text books so I can teach myself as well as fake or classical music book recommendations and so on).
As well as that though, I like to ponder how our ancestors might have lived or thought. I wonder where today's cultural belief systems stem from. When were they born? Why?
Anthropology or evolutionary psychology sounds interesting to me for that reason.
On the other hand, most people I encounter want to talk about themselves....
Their social life
What someone said to them and what they said back
The status of their own ego
Their problems
Their financial situation
Their social life again
Their social life again
Their social life again
Their problems
Their problems
Their problems
Now, granted I can talk about my problems but its usually something I do when I have exhausted all options and am temporarily unable to find a solution. If I can find a solution, or I have one in mind, and it is effective then there is no problem to talk about. People on the other hand will prefer to moan, complain and b***h about their problem in favour of finding an actual solution. Or if they have solution they will complain anyway..why? The problem is solved. I only keep on if I can't solve it and am frustrated. Once a solution is found the issue can be laid to rest.
I do not mind discussing someones problems sometimes, especially if I can help and I really don't mind discussing and exchanging information about each others life experiences on occasion if they are relevant to both of us (I am not a complete jerk). It just seems to me the above is ALL people ever talk about whilst accusing me of being the self obsessed/absorbed/egocentric one.
They also seem to hate everything. In all the months i have been people watching in cafes I have not heard one person praise something or say something positive or good about anything. All they do it talk about the above.
I fail to understand why people find this so attractive but chastise me when I want to talk about something I perceive to be more interesting. Alternatively for those who don't like those subjects I am also happy to natter about and re-explore past favourite topics such as parapsychology, nutrition and mental health, sharks, David Attenborough documentaries, evolution, movies, needle crafts and so on.
Or past hobbies that are more of a doing thing such as puzzles, board games (I luffs cluedo and monopoly), cross stitching, sequin art, horse riding....I can tend to prefer social activities over social chit chat and when meeting people would rather do an activity than just talk. It's easier as if I am struggling to make conversation we can have fun with the activity instead.
Or hobbies of upcoming interest: pottery, painting, drawing, learning clarinete, astronomy, fossils and so on.
Yet no one on the planet seems to want to have a fun easy going non judgmental natter about such things without turning it into a row or debate or just preferring to talk about their problems again.
It seems to me that the majority of people are more self absorbed than I am.
Ok I may not be able to get my brain off the topic of its beloved hobbies (and I will be thinking about them even when people are chit chatting at me) but I am not more self obsessed than anyone else is and if i am it is in a totally different way.
What irks do you have about social stuff?
08 Apr 2014, 5:12 am
