people making a big deal when you talk

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chris5000
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18 Apr 2014, 4:56 pm

so people I work with like to talk about how I dont say much all day
now whenever I say something they make a big deal about it and talk about it amongst each other
how am I supposed to deal with this



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18 Apr 2014, 5:15 pm

Sounds like they've labeled you as "the quiet guy". Nothing wrong with that as long as they are not abusing you.


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18 Apr 2014, 5:36 pm

Does it bother you? Politely ask them to stop.



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18 Apr 2014, 6:15 pm

As long as your job is unaffected, I would forget what people think, and just do my job.

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18 Apr 2014, 6:43 pm

I remember people use to do this to me all the time as a kid and I hated it, made me feel like not speaking ever



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18 Apr 2014, 7:05 pm

I would hate that. It would make me feel like they are analyzing everything I say.


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18 Apr 2014, 7:10 pm

oh yes. people used to do that to me. it bothered me so much.

whenever i did something unusual to my normal behavior, it was like this HUGE thing to other people.


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18 Apr 2014, 7:17 pm

That used to happen to me a lot and there never was much of anything I could do about it other than just ignore it. People who act like they are not going to be satisfied no matter what you do.



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18 Apr 2014, 7:32 pm

AdamAutistic wrote:
oh yes. people used to do that to me. it bothered me so much.

whenever i did something unusual to my normal behavior, it was like this HUGE thing to other people.


It happens to me too..... I HATE HATE HATE when people do it!


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19 Apr 2014, 4:37 am

Oh god I hate that. It is so lame.

"Hi Ezra"
"Hi Audry"
"OH MY GOD!! ! HE SAID "HI" BACK TO ME AND SAID MY NAME TOO!! ! OH... MY... GOD!! !!

Yeah, like I'm the one with a metal condition :roll:



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20 Apr 2014, 12:53 am

AdamAutistic wrote:
oh yes. people used to do that to me. it bothered me so much.

whenever i did something unusual to my normal behavior, it was like this HUGE thing to other people.


You know what's funny about that, the minute you start thinking you should get something out of it such as a reward or whatnot (even if you're joking around with them about it), those same people turn around and falsely accuse you of being entitled. It's okay when they start thinking like that, but it's wrong when I do that. Yeah...that's fair. That's fair :roll:



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20 Apr 2014, 2:13 am

My classmates from my maths class made a big deal about my speaking. I rarely speak and I never speak in my maths class.

Me: "Hi,"
Classmates: "HE SPOKE."

I went really quiet after that and didn't speak again. It wasn't AS and anxiety this time. It was shyness.



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20 Apr 2014, 2:24 am

TaciturnPhantom wrote:
My classmates from my maths class made a big deal about my speaking. I rarely speak and I never speak in my maths class.

Me: "Hi,"
Classmates: "HE SPOKE."

I went really quiet after that and didn't speak again. It wasn't AS and anxiety this time. It was shyness.


That's the worst part of it. It's like that's the last time I say "hi" again.



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20 Apr 2014, 8:20 am

EzraS wrote:
TaciturnPhantom wrote:
My classmates from my maths class made a big deal about my speaking. I rarely speak and I never speak in my maths class.

Me: "Hi,"
Classmates: "HE SPOKE."

I went really quiet after that and didn't speak again. It wasn't AS and anxiety this time. It was shyness.


That's the worst part of it. It's like that's the last time I say "hi" again.


I agree with you! For me, it only makes me want to retreat into my shell again and never come out. I end up regretting saying "hi".



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20 Apr 2014, 4:08 pm

TaciturnPhantom wrote:
My classmates from my maths class made a big deal about my speaking. I rarely speak and I never speak in my maths class.

Me: "Hi,"
Classmates: "HE SPOKE."

I went really quiet after that and didn't speak again. It wasn't AS and anxiety this time. It was shyness.


Had that happened to me, I would retorted with, "Yeah, in fact I'm sending out engraved announcements. I just don't know if I should have said announcements done in silver or gold. I thought about sending this to the evening and 11 o'clock news, but I decided against it since I'd be way in over my head."



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21 Apr 2014, 10:47 pm

It has always been that way for me...even on days when I think I've talked a lot, someone says, "You're always so quiet!" or the more sarcastic "Why can't you just shut up sometimes and let everyone else have a turn?" 8)