dating for older aspies vs living alone

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Asking for opinions here. I like living with just my dogs, but I can't deny that I could use some help around the place and would enjoy company at times.

How olds "Older"?
How about dating and living alone at the same time?
Where do you live?
What motorcycles do you like?

I would date, but still live alone.

It would be a great guy, indeed, who would be a "help" to you in the sense you mean.

I hope you find such a guy.

Why don't you just hire a handyman?

I'm a reclusive introvert - so my knowledge of relationships is really quite limited ... but even so, it seems to me that getting into a relationship just to get help around your home wouldn't be very fair to the other person.

I apologize if I misunderstood the OP.

I never want to live completely on my own, even though I like solitude. I would become too wrapped up in loneliness and become depressed. It's nice to know that you share the home with at least one other person, even if the other person has a full time job and is out working most of the time.

I still live with my parents but I'm hoping to move in with my boyfriend as soon as I can find a job near him. I spend every weekend at his, and it is what I've always wanted; to live in a small place, with a loving partner, and doing housework and stuff while he works (he likes working). Sorry I'm a bit old-fashioned.

There's nothing wrong with wanting some companionship, but not just for being handy around the home. I do my own small repairs around my place, I always have.

Even when I was a young girl, my dad, who was handy with home DIY, would show me how to do things. Nothing major, just things where I'm handy with drills and screwdrivers and minor repairs or improvements. I've always kept my own basic tools, a drill, screwdrivers, spirit level, pliers, nails, paintbrushes, etc.

I've painted my family home's entire interior including tricky Edwardian bannisters, replaced toilet cistern parts, repaired holes in sheetrock, replaced an interior door and sanded it and hung it correctly and reinstalled handle hardware, repaired plumbing. And a lot of this was even before the internet existed and you could follow Youtubes "how to"s.

I wouldn't want to be any other way; I think it's important for girls and women to actually know how be self sufficient in practical things around the home, the same way that boys and men ought to know how to do their own laundry or basic cooking. And for more complex issues, you just have to hire the appropriate repair person.

Personally I love living alone, and I also feel content not to pursue any more romantic connections; I'm kind of "done." It would take a seriously special person for me to trust again or want to have to compromise how I've come to like living. It's not worth the disruption anymore, for me personally.

I have a partner who is also AS. We like being on our own, but close by if that makes sense. And him being very handy around the house is definitely useful

My thread came across a little different to what I wanted to say. I didn't want to sound as if I wanted a slave to do my work, I am pretty handy myself. What I am lacking sometimes is motivation, and I have a property that is very worthy of improvement. I was merely thinking of someone with an interest in living on the land, gardening, raising livestock etc. But it is probably just folly, what I need is some motivation to build my dream on my own.

I've been thinking a lot the past few days about how being in an interdependent relationship can help with motivation. I myself am in my late twenties, American, and want to do something similar as you (living off the land) but can barely manage day to day things like budgeting. I live with roommates who are great people but live their own lives. It would be nice to have someone to really share a dream with.

Gender-wise it is likely that being female and of a certain age will have an easier time of finding a mate, the 'resume gap' isn't questioned to the degree that a male is: when a female goes for months or years between relationships it is usually assumed that she was focused on studies/career or she was caring for parents. When a male goes without a relationship for more than 24 hours he has the rank cologne of desperation about him that he can't wash off for all his efforts!

The other thing that seems to come into play alot is that your chances of finding a connection beyond a merely physical one is that the potential partner who shares enough commonalities as well as possessing the kinds of differences that keep things interesting is bound to be living in a completely different hemisphere and latitude, so count on riding The Big Red Roo at some point.

I live with my children and dog and it can be overwhelming, I think trying to date someone would be impossible in my complex household and I also love /need my alone time but sometimes I wish for a relationship.