Embracing uncertainty

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03 May 2014, 11:36 pm

A lot of people on this site have told me to get reassesed because I suspect I'm not autistic. I have many reasons why I don't want to get reassesed.

One of them is wanting to embrace my uncertainty about my neurology. I don't want to pay someone a fortune to be told what I can't do.

I'd rather just live my life as if my diagnosis never happened. I'll still be a bit quirky and socially awkward, but I think treating my health issues, socializing more and meeting people I get along with will get rid of 90% of my social problems.

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03 May 2014, 11:43 pm

Well, give it a go, see what happens. Good luck!

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03 May 2014, 11:46 pm

Your plan is good.

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04 May 2014, 2:35 am

I can't force you to get reassessed, and even if I could it would be wrong of me to do so. That being said, if it turns out you truly are autistic, but you don't know it, and you try to dive in and become "NT", you're likely going to regret it later on. If it turns out you're not autistic, and you manage to fix your own problems, then power to you.

Don't treat a positive autism diagnosis as a death sentence though. Sure they'll say that you'll have problems with certain things, blah blah blah, but that doesn't mean you can't try to improve. If anything, having a diagnosis spelt out for you can help you pinpoint the exact things you can work on, and the exact things you can let be.

Of course, I'm taking a very logical, stereotypically "aspie" approach on this. Uncertainty in and of itself is something that drives aspies like me crazy, whereas it's something NTs often don't have as much of a problem with, afaik. Being able to embrace and accept uncertainty may be the thing that proves you're an NT.

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04 May 2014, 3:15 am

mr_bigmouth_502 wrote:

I have a weird relationship with uncertainty. When it comes to mental health stuff and certain aspects of my future I embrace it. When it comes to stuff like my sexual orientation I can't handle it all.

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04 May 2014, 4:23 am

DevilKisses wrote:

<snip> I have many reasons why I don't want to get reassesed.<snip>

Autism is a spectrum, like a rainbow, but having a label is black and white. Either you have the label or you don't. But NTs are all over the place too with their personal thinking, socializing, intelligence, bad habits and good habits, whatever. I agree with you... what's the point? If one's anxious or depressed that's something else, then you can take that to a psychiatrist or psychologist, but just going to find out if you are on the autism spectrum... what is that going to do for you? Plus, I think that if you, or I, or anyone, went to a dozen "doctors" presenting our problems, and not our theories, that it is quite possible that one might get a dozen different diagnoses.

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04 May 2014, 1:47 pm

DevilKisses wrote:

I don't want to pay someone a fortune to be told what I can't do.

An ASD Diagnosis doesn't tell you you can't do anything. It's descriptive not prescriptive. If you have the traits, it explains what has been going on in your life.

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I'd rather just live my life as if my diagnosis never happened. I'll still be a bit quirky and socially awkward, but I think treating my health issues, socializing more and meeting people I get along with will get rid of 90% of my social problems.

You should do that. Enjoy life and do what you want to do. Diagnosis is not destiny.

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04 May 2014, 1:52 pm

I like that: "Diagnosis is not Destiny!" Very alliterative--and very true!

One must not allow his/her diagnosis to interfere what what they may accomplish. In fact, it is quite possible that the autism in a person could enable that person to come up with inventions which NT's could not possibly have come up with, owing to limitations in perspective. The autistic perspective is oblique and unique.

How about this one: "Life is not the answer to a Syllogism."

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04 May 2014, 1:59 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

I don't actually have any ASD related strengths. I do have strengths like everyone else, but all of them are unrelated to ASD. That's another reason why I doubt my diagnosis is correct.

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04 May 2014, 2:03 pm

If you like uncertainty then you have picked the right universe to live in.

No matter what label you have or have not been given your and anyone's mental health trumps any possible label. Labels are only helpful to make sure you can get the right treatment.
Kind of like blood type, if I need a transfusion I sure as hell want whoever to know I'm O negative.

If I'm not bleeding to death I really don't care what my blood type is.

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04 May 2014, 5:04 pm

Adamantium wrote:

An ASD Diagnosis doesn't tell you you can't do anything. It's descriptive not proscriptive. If you have the traits, it explains what has been going on in your life.

Technically that is true, but for someone growing up with a diagnosis they may be treated differently and told they can't do certain things because of it. So it becomes sort of like a self-fulfilling prophecy rather than a description.

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04 May 2014, 5:50 pm

dianthus wrote:

Adamantium wrote:

An ASD Diagnosis doesn't tell you you can't do anything. It's descriptive not proscriptive. If you have the traits, it explains what has been going on in your life.

I suppose that could be true. It seems to me that you want to try everything and then if there is something you can't do, it may be helpful to see it for what it is.

But it's crazy to take it as an automatic limitation on anything. You get these silly questions like "can autistic people drive?" Some can, some can't, you won't know for yourself unless you try. Some people have ASDs and not only drive, but are proficient pilots. Don't let any idea or label limit you, but do respect any real limitations that you discover in yourself.

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