Parent problems....

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My parents care about me,but they don't understand me too well though they say they do!

It's a universal problem, isn't it? Even NT parents and NT children don't always see eye-to-eye, just because of the generation gap. Add in quirky brains, and boy, things get confusing!

What sounds really frustrating is that they think they know things about you that they're actually wrong about. That would really irritate me--I would want to correct them, even though this would most likely annoy them.

Perhaps you could explain this to them--"Sometimes you assume things about me that aren't true, and I wish you would listen to me when I explain what I'm really thinking and feeling." But for goodness sakes, don't try this during an argument. Try it when they're in a good mood. And have a reasonably good example ready. Like: "The other day I was tired and I went to my room, and you thought I was mad at you. I was really and honestly just tired and wanted to be alone, I wasn't mad at all."

Parent/kid communication problems happen all the time. At least you know you're not alone, right?

I have the same problem with my mom. It's really frustrating when she thinks I'm upset or hiding something when I'm just more introverted and less doped up than she is. My dad seems to understand me, but he's more into "tough love" than mom. Almost every time I visit him (which I do once or twice each week) he tells me that I need to "toughen up" and learn to stand up for myself if I want to accomplish anything in life. He's really trying to make it happen, but at the same time there are those who want me to (to paraphrase the actual quote) yeild myself with perfect docility towards their molding hands.

I love them both very much and know that they want to help me though.