Having neighbours feels annoying

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It's not like I ever interact with them. One day it feels like I'm going to annoy one of them somehow. I miss looking out the window whenever I wanted to because sometimes there are people outside and I don't want them to see me looking outside. I admittedly talk to myself sometimes, but now I feel restricted because what if someone can hear through the wall? I usually talk to myself quietly, but still. All of the other neighbours usually interact with each other outside and I just walk past them. Summer is coming up which means there will be a lot more people outside. I'm not agoraphobic; it just feels awkward. Not anti-social either, but living away from everyone else was better. There's also a baby that cries 24/7 and it's irritating. Windows closed? Can still hear the crying.

Why am I to worry about complaints anyway? People in this household have gotten drunk multiple times at night being very loud and there have been no complaints.

I know the feeling. I live in a neighborhood where the local culture is to go outside and be loud. My neighbors see people they know and shout up the street to them. Everyone thinks I am antisocial because I keep to myself...they thought we were crazy because we added a porch onto the rear of our house and not the front, where we could have sat to watch everyone go by! They play annoying music very loudly, with the bass amplified, and it makes me very anxious. Also, one house keeps Guinea hens and their screeching is painful. I don't mind the chickens or the turkey, but the Guinea hens are maddening. And we had to put up a privacy fence and plant large shrubs around the perimeter of our yard, because every time we went outside someone would hurry over and want to talk to us for an extended time.

When I had an apartment, it was worse...I never even met my neighbors but their noise was always in my space. One older woman cranked up the volume on her television and so I had to listen to televangelists or the Home Shopping Network all day...Needless to say, didn't spend much time at home!

Sometimes when my neighbors are annoying it helps to turn it into something funny. Imagine how you might use your neighbors antics as material for a comedy routine, or read "Another Reason Why I Don't Keep a Gun in the House" by poet Billy Collins (click title to read). Hilarious. And cathartic!

Neighbors are almost always super-annoying. I've lived in several different apartment situations over the years, and in each one there was always someone who played their stereo too loud or who thumped and thudded on the ceiling above me. I admit that I do have sensory issues and over-sensitivity to loud noises, and that maybe a lot of other people wouldn't have minded the noises that drove me crazy. But even so, some of it did seem excessive even if I didn't have sensitivity. The last person I lived under who made too much thudding, drove me so crazy that I moved to the top floor in my next place. That was a LOT better.

I now live in a place where it isn't noise anymore that is the problem, but, more like your situation OP, it's the neighbors. I've gone from Noisy Central to Quiet But Nosy Central. These people seem to live for gossip and talking about people even if there's nothing to talk about. I value my privacy immensely, and so I'm really offended by the level of observation around this place, on the part of the managers and also the neighbors. There are "wardens" here who help with some of the older people and they exercise zero professional discretion. I learned the hard way that if I confide something, it's all over the building. That's despicable. I can't stand that mentality.

I hate coming and going, because I often run into someone I don't want to talk to, or these wardens patrolling around unable to mind their own business. I like to live in a place where I feel like I don't attract unwanted attention. I hate this place, but it's the only affordable housing in my area, by a long, long way, so financially I'm stuck here. It would be great if it weren't for the people though.

I've kind of traded one bad situation for another. In my other places I lived, the neighbors were noisy but the minded their own business and I could enjoy a feeling of being anonymous and private. Now, the neighbors are pretty quiet and my apartment is quiet -- but the neighbors are nosy and I feel a complete loss of the dignity of privacy and anonymity.

I don't know which is worse, now.

I make my own living but I don't qualify for a mortgage loan, and I will never own my own property, particularly at my late age in life. But my dearest fantasy is if I had some magical windfall of money enough to buy my own house, preferably on a large lot, as distant from neighbors as possible, in a quiet cul de sac, so that I can finally get away from people.

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Yeah, it's annoying. During the summer where I live my landlord even does the stupidest thing of erecting a giant trampoline right outside my window that attracts screaming little kids from all over the neighbourhood. When this happens my headset becomes life support. Luckily it's generally a quiet place where I live except for that -and the weather is rarely great.

Naturalist: are you in the West Indies?

I'm not into constant music, unless it's good. I don't mind meringue or something like that. I don't really like "house music" all the time, though. Rap is good if it's lyrically clean. You could curse via euphemism LOL

Our neighbors are pretty quiet, and keep to themselves.

One of my neighbours is exceptionally annoying. He feels the need to mow the lawn in his garden at 8am on a Sunday. I can't deal with the sound of a lawn mower particularly at that time in the morning.

I had neighbors below me who would play their music too loud and I felt so good when I had my son because now they would have to hear him cry and then when he was trying to walk and would fall down or stumble down and make a bang sound on the floor from it. Our next door neighbor next to us would sometimes play his TV too loud. The rest weren't annoying. We did have a house next door to our apartment and they had kids and they would wake me up at six in the morning or seven playing outside in their backyard and I did have the window open. I would just shut the window and go back to sleep and when I slept with ear plugs to block out my husband's snoring who slept in the other room, I wouldn't even notice the kids playing outside until I got out of bed and took out my ear plugs.

I would so love to be able to afford to move into a nice quiet rent house and get out of this apartment. I cannot stand having neighbors tromping across my ceiling and screaming at their kid right above my head - and the guy who lives across the breezeway from me is a nosy, busybody, hillbilly Gomer, who spends his day watching everybody out the window and collaring me as I'm unlocking my door, to bore me with stories about what everybody in the complex is up to - like I care, since I've lived here 6 years and never spoken to any of them, so their private lives are meaningless to me.

I have to say that now that my ghetto ass neighbor with 30 dogs, three broken cars, and a toxic waste dump in the backyard has been evicted life is a little more pleasant. Of course the heroin dealers a few houses down being evicted was a pretty pleasant change too. I'm not sure where the hookers went. Maybe business dried up after the heroin dealers get kicked out? All in all things are looking up in this neighborhood, I can take a leisurely stroll around the block at night hardly even noticing the 9mm in my shoulder holster.

have been living in this care home only since january and am not a fan of the neighbours.

am visited by the social services intelectual disability team every week and they park outside our facility [which is easily recogniseable as being one],was stood there one day when a neighbour that did not know came over and started shouting at self/staff about parking outside our building;saying he was almost unable to drive past so he coud get into his cul de sac,the staff said am a service user living there and we need to get inside; as was pretty anxious at this point and head banging, but he carried on and was just dragged into the house by staff.
-unbelievable,the tosser cant drive properly and shoudnt be on the road as staff cars are in no way blocking other drivers;the road is wide,he has since come over to harass staff even more and got his next door neighbour to come with him.

recently,we had two of our baby trees ripped out of our front garden and thrown over the fence at the lounge window along with stones,someone coud have got hurt- we think its him whose done it.
we quickly managed to put the trees back as we arent letting some POS control us.

theres only two neighbours on the street who are decent,one of them is a female ex gangster who has done hard time in prison and she has been stabbed a few times and dodged bullets,the neighbours judge her on her past but we dont-she wants to become an intelectual disability nurse but because of her criminal history she will never be allowed to work with vulnerable adults-a pity as she is more caring and understanding than so many people have known in the care industry,she is extremely friendly and am allowed to see her soppy beautiful dog for some canine therapy whenever wanted.

For all these reasons everyone has mentioned is why I live in the boonies. Problem is, it isn't the boonies anymore. So many have moved out and built around me wanting piece and quiet. Ya right. Neighbour working on motorcycle at 3 am revving it with straight pipes. Another with his beater pickup. I may as well have stayed in the city as it seems like it is following me.

Next plan is sell house if can and get motorhome and go to peaceful places. If noisy and obnoxious neighbours show up, unplug and move on to another spot elsewhere!

Where I lived it used to be considered the boonies, had the same problem with people wanting to move there and 'live in the country.' Problem is, instead of simply buying an already existing house and moving into there, a whole new house would be built or they'd move into one of the ever-expanding developments.

Next thing you know, the 'country' isn't the 'country' anymore. And all of that nature they wanted to see got mowed under because they didn't want to take the time and effort to renovate an existing house like my parents did.

But anyway, in my place (an apartment) some of the neighbors are OK or nice. However there are a few that are obnoxious, and once I had upstairs neighbors who insisted on moving in extra people into their apartment who weren't covered by the lease. You'd hear these folks' kids screaming outside at about 10-11 at night, or constantly using the washing machines on there floor (because there was so many people.) Eventually they were evicted, and boy did everyone sigh relief.

We have an old cabin from the 1700's deep in the forest in Sweden. At the moment we are staying in an apartment so we can do construction on the cabin and put in a water well, we were living there two years prior to staying in this apartment. I can say with complete confidence that I despise neighbors. Since coming to this place we have cats pooping all over our yard, park, and flower beds, we had someone puke in our walkway in the grass which we could not remove, we have loud screaming drunks until all hours of the night, loud music, loud cars, etc... I hate it!

Neighbors, don't get me started.

I've moved 2x because of noise from neighbors (once above me, once below me).

I have owned my house for 12 years. It's a twin so I have another house attached to mine (runs the entire length).
They are not too bad, but when they had ALOT of remodeling done I was in hell. I could hear what seems like ever bang, clang and nail... for weeks at a time.

Do have some that listen to music in car (I can FEEL the thumping inside my house) or ride a motorcycle, but this is a pretty quiet street by urban standards. There is an alley/driveway the entire block behind my house and another whole row of houses directly behind me (and across the street)

I do wish everyone would mow their lawns at the same time. On weekends I can sometimes hear lawn sounds from dawn to dusk. I'll be making myself comfortable in my basement (quieter) this summer. And it's naturally cool down there so less need to run central air.

Our old house was on a court, and everyone was very social. A couple of the neighbours even built a sturdy park-quality bench in the middle of the court so that people could go sit out there to chat. My wife loved it, and it was great for the kids because there were always people out there keeping an eye on each other's kids. I hated it though. I'd go sit on my front porch with a book to let the kids play outside, and neighbours would come up and plop themselves down on my deck and start chatting.

Security-wise, it was great, because everyone kept an eye on each other's property and kids, but I couldn't stand it. I felt stifled and like I didn't have any privacy. We moved two years ago to a brand new subdivision, and although I like it better not always having people inviting themselves over, just knowing there's people on the other side of the fence bothers me. I would much rather live in the middle of nowhere, but I want the kids to be able to have friends close by.