Problems with social talking.

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My grandpa is driving me nuts... He went into my grandma's work, apparently, to tell her that he'd be staying out until she got home because I didn't answer one of his questions today. He's not 2 years old, I don't think I should have to baby him by engaging him in conversation all the time whenever he wants to talk to me. He asks thousands of questions, and he doesn't accept simple answers, like yes or no, or one or two worded answers.

Personally, I don't like to talk unless it's about something of interest. Any other kind of talking is just annoying and pointless to me. This seems to drive others crazy. Anyone else have this problem?

Enjoy the solitude while you have the house to yourself.

Don't allow other people to manipulate you into feeling guilty, with their childish behaviors.

Completely with you on this. Out of interest what was the question he asked?

I've developed a simple one word answer when someone asks me a question ... "Google".

You could also stick some headphones on, that usually works.

Thanks Willard. He doesn't understand why I won't talk to him. He says I should have stayed living in an apartment if I didn't want to talk to anyone. I try to explain that because I have Schizoaffective disorder and hear things, being alone with those voices is torture. But that because I have NLD and possible AS, I don't like to really talk.

Jay, he asked me when I woke up, if I'd gotten my psych-ed results back, if I liked a girl's voice on tv, etc. I answered all but the one about my psych-ed, and apparently the answers weren't good enough.

Well, he must not like conversation. I was under the impression that each person is different. He shouldn't be trying to force you to converse how he would like you to. That makes no sense.

I agree Bleh. I even tried explaining to him why I don't like to talk, but he still gets angry and doesn't understand.

He seems very controlling and manipulative. If he did that to a stranger, they would walk away. If he had a boss and he did that, he would most likely be fired. It's easy to do this when you have some sort of control over someone, such as a family member.

Again, I agree. I think he likes to have his way, and when he doesn't, he gets very upset.

I'm not sure how your grandparents are in addition to this controlling behavior. I will say that my mother had those behaviors, and was also extremely abusive. I got away 3 days after I turned 18.

Do you live with them? Are you allowed to "escape" his control by going into your room? Does your grandma stick up for you?

They usually aren't that bad. My grandma sticks up for me sometimes, but usually she takes a neutral approach, where she doesn't take any side.

Yes, I live with them. I lived in a mental health treatment facility for two years, starting when I was 17. Then I lived in an apartment for people with mental illness. I'm not sure if it was the change in setting, or if it was my Schizoaffective, but the voices got bad when I was alone in that little apartment and so I had to return home. I go to my room, but he follows me, or just uses it as a reason to get more angry.