Urges to speak your mind

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Does anyone else get strong urges to say whatever is on your mind even if the other person may find it disgusting or rude?

I do my best to keep my opinions to myself, but if I'm emotionally triggered by something, sometimes I can't keep my big mouth shut.

It's one of the reasons a lot of bigoted people dislike me. I like to think that I'm more than comfortable with calling people out on their bull crap. I also enjoy being corrected, because I don't like false information.

When I was a caregiver for elderly people, I had to keep my mouth shut a lot. It lead to breakdowns because I couldn't stand some of their toxic ignorance. Sometimes, I really don't get how people can be extremely irrational.



Think of it this way: People tend to say things like "Well, it's polite to not correct people." So, we're supposed to let people have their opinions, but you can't have yours. As long as you don't mind admitting if you are wrong (thinking rationally) I see no reason why you shouldn't speak your mind. Just be careful because if you do offend someone, you should be prepared for them to cut you out of their life.

I tend to like to correct people as well; however, as I've gotten older, I've learned to use more discretion. I still feel that urge, though, to correct people's ignorance.

I like to be corrected as well, should I be wrong. However, I am one who likes diplomacy better than bluntness. I try not to show disdain toward someone whom I educating; I expect the same in return.

There are times, though, that I am seen as being too blunt. I seek to correct that aspect of me.

For me it's more like I get urges to say whatever's on my mind even if the other person might find it really boring or annoying. Not sure how many people actually like it when I tell them things about bacteria (for example: "did you know that staphylococcus aureus is one of the bacteria most often associated with infections spread at hospitals?" or "it's so crazy how clostridium tetani, which causes tetanus, causes the muscles to spasm so bad and so violently that the patient's bones might break) or other random things that are on my mind.

I tend to correct people. Mostly just people I know quite well though.

For me it's been more like a compulsion. This is one of the things that I've been working on in therapy for the past couple of years. And it's not just saying things, it goes as far as feeling compelled to post things on a forum. I just get so fixated on one thought that it doesn't occur to me that it might be offensive to other people or just inappropriate. I think I've made a lot of progress though in the last year.

OP, I forgot to ask: Is this related to your special interest? As in talking too much? Over sharing? I have both urges to correct people/speak my mind and I also tend to ramble on and on ...and..on...

Basically all of that! Especially if someone says something inaccurate about my special interest, I HAVE to correct them or else it annoys me greatly and I can't let it go.

I'd say a crap load of us have this little...issue. ;]

I usually correct people nicely, although people think I'm arrogant because of my tone. I usually get a very formal, almost flat voice and just shoot out information like a verbal machine gun.

I over share, also. Some of us talk too little, some of us talk too much. I think it's just how we are. I suppose you could learn when you are supposed to stop, but it's pretty hard to me. I can't exactly keep track of how long I talk, either.

In other words, I think you're OK for doing this. Just be warned, some people will always think of you as rude and/or mean. If you try to explain that you just like information and you have trouble communicating and it sounds "mean", people might ease up a bit. If you ask them "Can you tell me how can I communicate with you so you aren't offended?", you might get some answers.

Talk away, my friend.

i could have used this advice 6 years ago.

I often do, though it can be a problem when it's something I really really don't want that person to hear.

Well, if I'm emotionally attached to the subject or if something about what that person said I'll speak up. One thing that I ALWAYS have to bite my tongue over is when someone goes down a road that they know can lead them into trouble and, when they do end up in trouble, they act like they don't how they ended up in trouble. Here's a few examples:
Parents who have spoiled, disrespectful children but don't know why. A girl who frequently has sex but is shocked when she finds out she's pregnant. A person who treats the people around them like crap but is surprised when those people don't come in his/her hour of need.
All I'm saying is if someone with a reputation comes up to me and say these magic words, "how could this have happen to me?" They better be prepared for me to tell them exactly how it happened.

As far as debates on something....again, if I am familiar with said topic and know a lot of information about it I'll share it. If I disagree with the person, without being rude, I'll put in my two cents. I don't name call or call their opinion stupid, I just flat out state my disagreement.

If a topic is something I feel passionate about, I can't help but speak my mind. If a topic is something that I disagree with or know nothing about, I either avoid a thread all together or I try to be as supportive as I can.

I am perpetually walking around with a foot in my mouth, when the urge hits I just have to say what's on my mind like an itch I just have to scratch.

... I am overdue for a tetanus shot ...

All the time. The only thing that stopped me was the realization that most people's opinion of me doesn't matter and therefore I don't care if they're wrong or say something stupid. It's only those people in my life I care about that I correct or speak my mind to.