Really really dumb!! !

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I just mentioned in a thread last night how I hate that acronym NT because it encourages people to lump them together and make generalizations about them, usually uncomplimentary. Lately though, I have been having so much trouble navigating those freaky social rules. I don't know, are social rules only about NT? I don't get it.

The worse part is that I'm not bad, I'm just considered very odd and it seems to me that for that I am forced to take a lot of punishment. I'm not trying to whine, I just feel constantly under pressure and overwhelmed by this and it seems to be getting worse even though I'm in my 50s.

Anyway, I had this issue today - one of our waiters at my job has been joking around with us for months, maybe even a couple of years - you know how jokes go on - that he wants us to get him breakfast, it's a specific breakfast. So every morning he starts with the chant and we chant it back at him. This morning I was ordering breakfast for myself and thought it would be fun to get him his breakfast, so I did.

Did not go over well with my colleagues. I was hearing things like, You are making us look bad.

I actually had considered asking them if they wanted to pitch in but it was not expensive at all, plus I'm always organizing crap with these people and THEY never take any initiative and I just get sick of trying to herd them together all the time. I just wanted to get the guy his breakfast without an ordeal.

I don't get it, but it did not make them happy at all. If one of them had gotten him the breakfast, I don't think I would have felt like it made me look bad. What the heck?

What people will tell you: You were inconsiderate and broke social rules and are to blame

What really happened: They are ego driven and wanted to the be the one to do what you did so they could get the credit. Competition. Ego. Self.

People can be really unreasonable as they have a self absorbed way of looking at things and tend to always jump to the most negative conclusion such as that you were trying to make them look bad, trying to outdo them and so on.

I just see someone who did something nice.

Notice how they made it all about them when it was actually about getting breakfast for someone else? It made 'THEM' look bad....

THEM them them self self self.

The way of the world sadly.

This is what I mean about people being negative souls and why I am growing to dislike the company of humans (not all but the majority). Someone does something nice for someone and all they do is see something negative there and make it all about them.

Yack.

It;s why as long as humans exist there will never be world peace. It goes against human nature. Humans are simply not altruistic or egalitarian enough.

As I have said before many of them (but not all) live up the arse of their own ego.

save as much moolah as you can and retire as early as you can, Wozeree.

Problem is (I know this is a generalization) but many NTs are very trivial when it comes to things. They tend to take offense because they think you are trying to get one over on them. It seems that society as a whole is like that these days. Issues of true importance are ignored and silly/trivial things are the main focus. Don't believe me? Just watch the MSM and see the crap they devote time to. If society wasn't that way, they'd be reporting REAL issues. They are just feeding the society we have today.

This is why I gave up on MSM years ago. Sorry for drifting on the topic a bit. Just know that I feel you did nothing wrong. I would ignore your coworkers. They are the ones with the problem. Don't concern yourself with their pettiness and just be yourself.

I don't know? There aren't really any rulebooks written about this sort of thing. I know it's easy to say, "Don't worry about it!" when I'm not in the situation but you shouldn't really worry about it. It'll all be forgotten before you know about it.

I'm giving away Emoticons this afternoon. Here, have a Nemo

I have to say they really came through for me today, helping me out doing some work so I could do other work. I had a miserable day - all this whining I've been doing about work - I sent an email to my boss and copied the personnel manager on it. Clearly not a good thing to do. Now I feel bad on so many levels, I don't even know what to do. And have to have a meeting with him tomorrow. Anybody have any job openings for an idiot?

I have to ask, is part of the problem that you overly worry? Do you get stuck on the fine details and go over and over them in your head?

I gotta say I'm confused. You made breakfast for a guy. You did a favor for him. Why in the world are they making a fuss about it? If somebody made me breakfast, I'd be pretty confused if everybody else started getting upset, and not even because I didn't make them any. People are weird.

I'm not sure what you mean, I guess I do sometimes.
Well they're over the breakfast now, they forgot all about it.

Well, you glazed right over my comment and didn't even acknowledge my contribution but it looks like I was right:

"...you shouldn't really worry about it. It'll all be forgotten before you know about it."

You don't get to my age without learning a thing or two about people and life.

Live and learn young one - you'll be right.

Here - have another Nemo:

Sorry about that! Your Nemo made me smile and I was feeling really bad!
Happily I can report that at least for now it all worked out! I think you were talking about the breakfast which as I said they got over pretty fast (man they've been really helping me for two days)! Not doing a ton of work, but enough to make me feel less panicky about it piling up.
Thanks for all the kind words everyone! I was really low.