Do you get angry when someone falls or gets sick?

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When someone falls on the ground, do you get angry, especially if it is a friend, relative, or co-worker?
Do you get angry when the above get sick?

That sounds unreasonable.

ruveyn

I have occasionally scolded my grandchildren (although usually just mildly and mostly just as a reminder) for not being more careful after having already been cautioned about something, but I cannot recall ever actually being angry because someone fell down or was sick.

Do you have some kind of specific situation in mind?

I feel the same way, and up until now I thought I was the only one. I figure it's because I am frustrated that they are hurt/sick and I don't know how to help them. It could also be that seeing them in such a state makes me feel resentful, since I always look to them to protect me.

Yes, and I thought I was the only one also, and that I must be a completely horrible person for having such thoughts.

I was very angry at my mother for having MS, and then even angrier at her for not dying in a "timely fashion" and putting us all through months and years of hell in the process.

I know it's "unreasonable" but I can't change how I felt.

I need to ruminate on this further--I will watch the thread.

I don't get angry when people get sick or hurt. I get a bit annoyed when they get sick if they keep on complaining about it. I don't have the same thing about people getting hurt though. It's not when they get seriously sick, it's when they get minor illnesses like the flu. It's probably more the complaining that I am annoyed at, not the fact that they are sick.

puzzling trait but i share it.

i often feel like other people are putting on an act, and i think this has something to do with it.

i agree with ruveyn it's unreasonable. also agree with CTBill maybe it's worth some thought.

Sorry, that just makes little sense to me.

I guess I get angry that it HAPPENS, but not angry at the person, as it's not something they can control.

No. You can't help falling over or getting sick, getting angry about it is illogical.

That actually makes alot of sense. I noticed one day that my sister was upset about something and the way my mother reacted was to become angry and shout at her, this was very illogical and upset my sister more, but our Mum can't differentiate between reasons why she is angry and what she is angry with. All that she know is that she is angry and it seems that whatever emotion she is experiencing completely consumes her and whoever is with her at the time will be on the receivng end of that emotion. She was not angry at my sister, she was angry that her daughter was hurting emotionally and she was frustrated and angry that she couldn't do anything about it, so she reacted in a way to express that she was angry, but didn't realise she was directing it at my sister. It's really hard to explain.

However, my sister will react to things along the lines of what Katzefrau said, sometimes she feels that people are "putting on an act." My sister shys away from any revealing of feelings such as expressing that you are ill. She feels like you shouldn't need to tell anyone how you feel and she doesn't like people to tell her how they feel. But that may have to do with how my Mum reacted when she revealed how she felt. Maybe she can't understand why people are willing to open themselves up to getting shouted at, not realising that generally people won't shout at you if you tell them you are feeling bad. She doesn't like to see weakness.

I get upset whenever my teacher is absent due to illness or some other responsibility, because I dislike substitutes that much. I don't understand why students like substitutes so much, because 99% of the time, a substitute teacher means more work.

When I was younger, I used to be angry that the world allowed my friend/relative to get hurt or sick.

I wasn't angry at the person themself as they couldn't help it (and I had my share of illness and clumsyness), but angry at god (I was brought up christian, but am not now) or the world in general.

I have a fair bit of experience being sick or injured and other people being so allows me to use what I've learned and be helpful, as well as to find some good in the the various physical ailments I've suffered through. Which isn't to say that I like others to be sick and injured, but I do like being able to help someone. I also have a bit of a protective streak towards people I care about, and them being unwell really brings this out.

I do admit that I become irritated if someone starts to cry over it, though. Not angry, just frustrated and impotent-feeling.

Interesting--I am the opposite. Being sick is far more unpleasant than being injured, so I don't mind people whining about it. Being injured, though.... It's unpleasant, sure, but really? It's just pain. (And suddenly my inner callousness shines through!)

I don't get angry if someone falls over, but I do get angry if someone vomits in front of me.

I don't get angry but I feel agitated. I think you're right about the need to help. But often there is nothing you can do. And I think you are supposed to say something comforting but I really have trouble coming up with the words.

I understand this--I deal w/ these types of feelings when a MALE in my life is sick, which I do think has a lot to do w/ my childhood w/ my dad.