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For some reason(s) it is difficult for me to post here anything, I am afraid for no reason. Might be for following reason(s): fear of being wrong and fear of understanding something wrong (happens a lot, I can read text but not understand it). Every time, before posting, I can feel fear inside me, but I don't really know why, it is just coming even though I know that I should not fear.

You're in Wrong Planet: Everything is Right!

I just ignore people who are merely here to criticize. They have a chip on their shoulder, axes to grind. Let them grind their axes in isolation!

Most people on this site give you the benefit of the doubt.

With every post I make, I am feeling less fear, but I do not have any ideas to write about. Might be because my brain is not thinking about wide topic (only in present and in that situation), rarely past is in it.

I just joined this forum, so I have yet to see...
But I hang about a couple other places and go through periods of what you are describing. It's a strange kind of online social anxiety, sort of. Exacerbated by the OCD.

Right now I'm doing ok, but when I'm having a rough time I am convinced I am writing the wrong thing all the time, and could never know the right thing ever.

But that's not really true.

I just have a feeling that I don't know what to say, and I can't be understood because I don't make sense. Really the only way I've gotten through it is to just start again by joining in on some relatively benign topics. Things that are just fun and random.

That helps quite a bit.

Well keep posting buddy. That is great that your fear is starting to shift. Even if you just want to post just to say hello and let us know how you are feeling that is great too because it will help you get over the fear of posting. You don't have to write about anything spectacular or have these amazing ideas. You can just share about your day if you like. But I definitely encourage you to keep on posting. I will look forward to reading whatever you want to share.

I will try to post more commonly in next weeks and summer, because it is time when I am mostly isolated from outer world. I can see few people from my (former by that time) class and family.

That sounds like a good plan. And welcome to WP by the way!

Welcome to WP as well SignOfLazarus.

Me too, I'm trying to push through it. Please don't stop posting.

I'm in the same predicament because I've had a problem of making unintentionally "rude" remarks in my past. The best thing about WP is that almost everyone is open-minded and understanding; I'd say even more so than in other forums I've frequented (with the exception of Social Anxiety Support). Even if you do write something that is "wrong" or off-topic, I doubt there will be a witch hunt after you. Keep up the good work and don't be afraid; we're very nice.

Don't be afraid Post, see what happens, and then you'll see that actually no one really cares. Eventually you'll even start to get offended, that no one is taking seriously what you say and most of your efforts are in vain. This is not connected to you or to the real world in any significant way, this is just for entertainment.

I'd suggest that the fear comes from a belief (likely correct) that you feel you don't know how to handle the situation successfully. (and the possible responses)
I believe this is the core of most all human fear, including the fear of the unknown.

Posting IS social interaction.
This site is crammed with people that have social difficulties and therefore have tons of awful experiences with social situations going seriously wrong, meaning gobs of proof that they have every reason to fear.

So how can someone who "always" fails at a specific situation become confident that they will not ruin the next attempt also?
Well the answer is simple: They need to put a bunch of new information into their head, and appropriate information too.
After 10,000 "failed" social interactions (which is true for most of us here) it's kinda silly to imagine that "cross my fingers and this time will be better."

I'm not one to recommend books much but this book revolutionized how I feel about social situations -this is a link> A Field Guide to Earthlings: An autistic/Asperger view of neurotypical behavior.
I strongly urge you or anyone with any possibility of ASD to get a copy asap.
It'll help your life relax a lot.

It did for me.