Resistance to change

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I read that it is a very common symptom for Autism, so I like to hear your thoughts on this and your experience about this. I also noticed this about myself recently through thinking about my younger self. I usual like one hobby and that was it. I was more nervous when trying new things. Even at my hobby playing video games, I stay to a few series instead of looking at new series to get into. I admit I found myself thinking at times, that I should stay the same forever. At 2012, I started to change and I became more open to things. I now think that change needs to happen for the chance to grow as a individual to find your place in life. I found the lifestyle of being in a bubble like state for the rest of time to be poisonous. Would it really be worth it, if there's no one with you or to talk too as the world goes on without you?

I used to work as a nurse in a nursing home. I was at one center for 2 1/2 years with pretty much the same schedule. One day, out of the blue, a notice pops up that says administration is changing everyone's schedule. Instead of working 5 8-hour days it'll be 3 12-hour days. I flipped out. I couldn't believe they'd change the schedule without asking people if it was okay with them. I had certain things I did outside of work and now my entire daily schedule would be interrupted. I huffed and puffed, bounced around the walls, then handed in my resignation.

After I quit, I got to thinking about the whole affair. How come my reaction was so strong? Why didn't I just go along with it like everyone else? That got me starting to think about the rigidity of autism. Did I have it? I saw a licensed clinical psychologist and she said there was no doubt in her mind that I'm on the spectrum. So now I'm here on WP.

Yeah, I'm not fond of change----if I could do the exact same thing everyday, I'd be happy as a little pig in sh!t! My theory is because we can't control what's going-on on the INside, we like to control----or, in this case, stay on an even keel----what's going-on on the OUTside.

So, you can have both. I live alone, and can do all the weird little things I want to----but then, when I go out, I socialize all I want. Also, I'm not in a "bubble-like state" because I keep-up with things----through news programs, and such. So, you can do both----it's okay. I DO know what you mean about "bubble-like state" though----and about it being poisonous----I call it "cocooning"----and you're right, it isn't healthy-----so, as long as you get out and mingle with the humanoids (joke) every once-in-awhile, you'll be fine.

You mentioned video games. I had a select few age 3+ games that I played past 15 years old.

Yes, I am resistant to change. I can't stand sudden changes in plans, I tend to keep eating one meal each time until that food is gone, and then start working my way through a different meal. I do occasionally get out to run errands, and will talk to people when I am doing that, and will talk to neighbors if I see them when I am outside. I have other health issues that keep me from getting out much, but at least I will talk to people when I do go out, although I am a solitary person by nature. I can handle these small doses of social contact all right, and occasional visits with family, too, but prefer being alone.--Yes, I am a hermit, but a non social one, not an anti social one.

As for change, I prefer it in small doses, and with plenty of warning time, so I can deal with it better.

I like change as long as I'm the one making the change. If someone else is making the change, it makes me anxious and nervous. The more sudden the change, the more anxious and nervous it makes me.

I am like this. If I want to change something I have thought about it and it is my choice. So I am prepared. But I hate sudden changes, which are made by others because I haven´t had time to be prepared for the new thing. It is better to tell me those things a few days before the change will happen, so I feel secure again.

Yehh I used to hate massive changes. I definitely identify with the idea of wanting to stay the same. I wanted my younger brother to be an innocent kid forever I wanted to be a kid forever and mourned the passsage of my own adolescence and my brother's childhood. Our relationship deteriorated as he grew older and the inevitable dirty humour started up.

Weird thing is I always react badly to certain changes and realise afterwards: "so thats why I did x".
Whenever my housemates change their daily routine (im intimately acquainted with their daily routines haha) I also experience anxiety as I hate the unpredictability.

Even my eating is regimented so as to avoid change. I eat twice a day and have three different types of meal which I alternate
Tuesday: A + B
Wednesday: A + C
Thursday: A + D

I might make slight changes to the meal itself but the basic structure is the same. I love this as the predictability factor is massive but I dont feel that my diet is dull because I can add a new spice or new vegetable to the template.