Social humiliation

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Nothing seems to bother me like social humiliation. It is much worse than not achieving group acceptance. Problem is, often you need to put up with some social humiliation to achieve group acceptance. It seems NTs often consider this humiliation "fun social play".

Can anyone relate?

I can relate to that, I'm not to good with being humiliated in anyway sadly especially socially because I try my best, however I don't mind if I know the person where friendly and I know they are just having some fun.

I hate social humiliation and just don't put up with it anymore.

Needless to say some people want nothing to do with me - that's OK. Got lots of better things to do with my time anyhow. Guess I'm my own man - cranky and all according to some.

On a positive note I've found this whol social humilation thing eases off as one gets older - people seem more accepting of others as time goes on.

Ummmm, yeah, been there a few times. These days I tend to avoid situations where I end up looking humiliated and if joining a particular group means that I have to go through such an experience then I'll go elsewhere for my company.

I don't think they consider it fun when it happens to them - it just doesn't happen to them as much. Or rather, their idea of fun includes tormenting us. There have been times in my life when I thought "well, at least I serve some purpose in that other people can bond with each other by picking on me".

Most times I have been humiliated by other people it was not done for fun or play. It was not a situation of people joking or playing around and enjoying themselves at my expense. It was deliberately mean or abusive and intended to cause me suffering. And/or it was the by-product of having a conflict with someone who was angry at me and didn't care one whit about my feelings.

I have only known one social group in particular where people would deliberately try to humiliate others for "fun" and actually expected them to be accepting of that. I don't think most people look at it that way. Sometimes people just don't understand how you really feel about it. But I think most of the time they KNOW it isn't fun for you and that's exactly how they want it. But they cover it up by acting like they are just having fun.

In any case it is usually not worth being part of any group that allows that kind of thing to go on. It is very much a group thing, I mean one person really can not get away with it unless the entire group goes along with it. In my current job it would not be tolerated in the company culture.

Most social humiliation goes over my head.

But it totally blows when you're aware of it.

Glad to hear I am not the only one.

I am sure NTs do not like it. But I have this feeling that it feels even worse for us, because group acceptance means a whole lot to NTs. Therefore, they are willing to put up with more humiliation to be accepted.