Setback frustration

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Hi!

I am a very aspie 45 yo male, I have few friends and few hobbies.

I have always wanted to fly RC planes and about 6 months ago, I met a guy who has been willing to teach me how to fly.
So after spending for me a lot of money I bought the gear.

I really enjoy having a new friend, but OMG the hassles I have had learning to fly are just @#$! ! me off!

I am having many setbacks, I am told these are normal, crashes, broken bits and repair jobs.
Not been a person who has good fine motor skills I find soldering and putting stuff together a real challenge.
But the real hassle is in 6 months I have had only 3 good flights and a heap more wasted 40 km drives to the flying field and disappointments.

When it goes well I love it !

But when its goes bad, I hate it ..... So far the bad column is longer than the good.

Help!! !

What do I do press on and hope that one day like riding a bike I get it??
Or run away??

Is it normal for aspies to struggle with so much setbacks??

My NT wife and NT flying teacher, are so laid back when a plane crashes or a wire breaks and the flying day is a write off, but me it really really really frustrates me.

Thoughts please??

My partner has an RC helicopter and an AR drone. I've tried to fly the helicopters but I'm no good at it I won't touch the AR drone as it's too expensive for me to break LOL. Maybe it is an Aspie thing but I cannot get the hang of the controls at all.

What's RC?

Remote control

Thanks.

It can be frustrating. Does your teacher help you when you have crashes or need to make repairs?

Yea my teacher is very good, he helps fix and shows me how to do it next time and he is not judgmental in any way.
He has taught me heaps and is very calm.
I am very lucky to have him as a friend.
The issue is me!! !

He sounds like a great teacher. I can understand why you would get frustrated though. If it were me I think the way I might try to handle something like that is to really break each task down and look at one thing at a time. Like if you have a crash instead of looking at all the different parts you have to work on, just pick one and take each step once at a time. Then pick the next thing and then the next thing. That way you are not overwhelming yourself trying to process the whole picture but just one small part at a time.

One night I had had a super emotional day and I was so exhausted and so unable to process anything that just the sheer act of getting to bed was a nightmare. I had to take each step one at a time and that is how I was able to accomplish it. I said, "Ok, all you have to do is brush your teeth." So I managed that. Then I said to myself, "Now all you have to do is wash your face." So all I did was focus on that and managed it. Then I told myself, "All you have to do now is change out of your clothes and put on your PJs". And I managed that. Once I broke it down I was able to manage each part individually and then make it to bed. If I tried to focus on all three things at once I would not have been able to manage it.

This is not much different than owning a motorcycle and having guys wanting you to do a "track day" or attempt stunts.

It's easy to do that kind of stuff if you have the income to handle when things go wrong.

Crash on a track day, and even if you come to no harm, your weekend is shot. Unlikely you can fix the bike enough to go back on the track, and you'll have money to spend when you get home to fix the bike properly.

Some hobbies are just bad ideas if you are on a budget. I've learned to avoid them.