People dropping in with little warning

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does that annoy you?

when its people that don't usually come over I really don't like them coming with out at least a days notice, I am currently hiding in my room because someone decided to suddenly come round with small children with only an hours notice.

I just don't know how to react to that little warning, I am not prepared, so now I am stuck

yes,the sudden unpredictibility causes meltdowns in self and also do not stay with them;will carry on doing routine and its like they dont exist to self.
only if their visit was planned into routine will it be followed.

It drives me crazy to know end. When people drop by unexpectedly, I usually answer to door, but I don't think I do a good job of hiding my annoyance or indifference at any given time.

Why did they have little kids with them? You think they were selling girl scout cookies or something?

Ugh I hate that.....I recently moved abroad and this society is all about unannounced visits......fabulous right? I don't know what I'm going to do when I have my own house with my hubby....ugh.....

can you believe I am devising a plan to get from my room to the bathroom without being noticed, its crazy, its like a stealth mission, I have no idea why I am so freaked out by the idea of talking to them I have never been trapped in my room before

franknfurter, I know just how you feel. I get upset when people come to mine unexpectedly, more so when they just turn up at the door and I have no idea how long they're choosing to stay. It just causes distress for me. I don't mind if it's a family member who likes to stick to a routine and plan ahead and be organised, because then I know that they won't stay for the duration. But some of my family members are very disorganised and have no particular structure to their life (except for work), and they just decide to come to our's at the last minute and they could sit there for hours.

I think I get distressed about guests coming and going at unpredictable times because I have become very passionate about my sleep. I am on meds to treat depression, which is working, but since I've been on them I have been more tired and like to have a half-hour nap during the day and I like to wind down and get into bed between 10pm and 11pm. But I have misophonia quite badly, and so any noise I hear from outside my bedroom I get really agitated and distracted and just can't settle. And so when there are guests at my house 'til God knows when, usually doors are left open, I can hear the TV murmuring loud, and they always want cup of tea after cup of tea so I keep hearing the kettle roaring which my misophonia seems to make me hate the sound of, and our cat gets a bit frantic when there are people round late because she wants to settle down to sleep in the sitting-room. When there are no guests round, the house is much quieter and I can relax more.

I know it does sound mean and a little selfish, but if I could get my own place I would.

It bugs me a little, but what I really don't like is when (without any warning) somebody tries to talk me into dropping whatever I'm doing at the time to go do something else. I always tell people that if they could just let me know what the plan is in advance, I can make it work, but some people are really opposed tothat for some reason.

It totally depends on the person. There are two people that I welcome anytime no matter what and I actually wish they would drop by more often even unexpectedly. I would just want them to call on their way so that I can be dressed. Other people I can't deal with and I will usually hide in the bedroom until they are gone.

they have gone now thank god, I wish I did not react like that because I do actually like my family, like you said skibum there are some people that I find ok to drop around whenever, well only one person is ok whenever.

Haha, sorry for laughing.

But I too on weekly basis run down the stairs only to see a tiny glimpse of someone I wasn't expecting downstairs in the reflection of a picture frame via the glass in the front door sitting in the living room only to freeze and sneak up back upstairs quietly hoping they didn't notice and will yell out for me.

I've got a backup bottle of water in my room specifically for when I can't/won't/don't want to go downstairs to get something to drink because someone is visiting and I don't want to do the whole 20 min "hey how are you, tell me all about your life" routine.

I think I have most of my family trained now.
Visitors by invitation only.

Please never do it.

Occasionally it's nice but most times it's an inconvenience.