Insecurities

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I have a problem with other peoples insecurities, for instance,

After I and a girlfriend broke up, we both liked the same web sites and so went to them, I ignored her but kept getting booted from the site because of her complaining I was there, didn't matter who was there first and I wasn't bothering her, finely I got upset and complained to her, then next thing I knew I was in front of a judge with complaints of harassment. and the only thing the judge would accept was for me to do the friendly thing and abandon the website.

Another example, was when me and my kids mother broke up I crashed and went drinking, got into trouble for it, now she uses that excuse most every time she smells beer on me or even thinks I was drinking anything she complains to my kids therapists as if I was out getting drunk even in the privacy of my own home, were to her even 1 beer is to much. and just recently I got into a finder bender, no alcohol involved (I do not drink and drive), yet she went off telling my sons therapists and councilor I just got into trouble for drinking and driving when its not true, and now their hounding me with that its better to be safe then sorry attitude not listening to a damned thing I say, so in the end I have to play that game of paying the price for others insecurities be I guilty or not.

And there have been other times with other instances and subjects, to where its always me having to pay the price for others insecurities, and its REALLY starting to piss me off.

Sometimes I think my kids mother just complains to my kids therapist in hopes of making her look good and me bad for a potential future custody dispute, regardless of if anything is true or not just so her complaint can be documented for later use, not to mention my son comes home complaining they are trying to pump him for information because of his mother, in which case I fully gave him permission to tell them wither anything is true or not that he does not have to answer them, and in fact if they persist he can give them the flying finger, which his therapist has come back on me complaining about my son refusing to talk to them and I just tell them to shove off, my son is not there for them to use against me to spy upon. and I gave them that argument before and they didn't want to listen till I told them to f**k off and yanked my kid out of therapy.

When people go off with a bias eye they will always find something wrong to complain and judge you about, I am sick of it. I used to let my kids therapists into my home just to let them see nothing is wrong, then got sick of it and now I wont let them come near my home. their attitude is if there is nothing wrong they why not? I am like fuck-you. we have every right to our own lives and privacy and I do not have to answer to anyone about that.

Its one thing if I am guilty of something and need to own up to it, its quite another for me to always to be having to be and live the way others want because of their own insecurities, their better safe then sorry attitudes are really annoying, esp when I am innocent of them.

Last edited by AspergianMutantt on 10 Aug 2014, 1:38 pm, edited 1 time in total.

My dad (like me) has Asperger's, and after my parents divorced my mom did the exact same thing. Kept trying to turn me and my siblings against my dad, while interrogating us. It drove me insane to the point where I don't even talk to her anymore. It makes me sick to imagine that separated parents using their kids for revenge might be the "normal" thing to do.

Sorry to hear that, on this end the mother is not trying to turn our child against me, he would end up rebelling and hating her for it, so she knows better. but it seems she is always trying to get his therapists to do her dirty work for her, even if her own insecurities are not justified, then they go off with that its better to be safe then sorry attitude, so i end up getting the raw end of the stick because of her (then theirs) insecurities, and whats worse it all gets documented true or not so it can be later used in court. where the judge is likely to go off with the same attitude, thats like being found guilty before innocent, because of hearsay, then comes the argument of why I don't just bend over and take it if I am so innocent just to make others happy. its almost like being accused of being in denial when I have to pay for others unjustified insecurities.

And its not just her or them, what people I had to work with and around done the same things with me, its about like just because I may look or act different doesn't mean I am some creep or idiot whom needs to be watched and dictated too, yet others judge me with the mentality its better to be safe then sorry. for instance, at a place I worked as a janitor, I got accused by the tenants of getting into things and leaving doors open, when it was my boss who had done so, and he told them so later., just they done this kind of thing repeatedly when I had no history of doing such things.... I am Soooo sick of it, its so unfair to me, in fact thats a BIG part of why I went back on disability, so i wouldn't have to deal with so much of that kind of crud.