the Seperation Anxiety phase, did you go through it?

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I have a nine month old niece, and she is going through a Seperation Anxiety Phase, we talked about it with her doctor and the doctor said its a crucial point of development, i asked my dad if i had Seperation Anxiety as a baby and he said no, i was always playing alone and building towers while my Neice never even wants to sit on the floor alone. so i think that i never went through that phase because i have ASD. Who else never went through this phase

LOL....If I could remember myself at nine months old, I'd be a genius!

My first accurate, realistic memories come from when I was 5 1/2 years old. Before then, there are snippets of images.

I did. I asked and my mom said yes. I remember having it too as a toddler and I used to get so scared being left alone at daycare with everyone and I felt safer there with my mom there or my father. I didn't realize this was separation anxiety until I was an adult.

This seems so odd to me, but I get very anxious about separating now, and as far as anything I have been told I did not appear ever to show anything as a baby like separation anxiety.

I think it's easier to go through as a baby, at least I hope so. It's hard as an adult.

I can vaguely remember not wanting to be left but I don't think from what I was told that I was able to communicate this until much older.

I most definitely did. From when I was 2 until I was 6, I didn't function well whenever I was separated from my mother. This often caused issues because my mother only stayed at home for a few years before going back to work.

I had severe separation anxiety when I was a toddler and child (none that I know of as a baby). It was only for my mother, no one else. I actually think that was my first official diagnosis because I was so bad about it and it lasted longer than normal. I just didn't feel comfortable around anyone else and got scared if my mom wasn't around because I felt like everyone else was unpredictable and/or scary. I was fine being left to myself in the house and other quiet familiar places, but when we went out, I would cry and get upset if my mom tried to leave me.

as far as i know, i didn't have it as a baby.
but i don't know if this is seperation anxiety or not, but in 9th grade i would get uneasy if i was seperated from a girl in one of my classes i was attached to. it only lasted a while though.
i even had a dream about it.
really super embarrassing.
go ahead and laugh.
as much as i loved 9th grade, that's one aspect of it i don't miss.

Not all normal kids show overt separation anxiety, either. Some just get a bit subdued with separation, eg playing less actively, rather than actually crying.

Many autistic kids fall more into the 'subdued during separation' category than the 'overt distress at separation' category. And getting subdued at separation can be subtle enough that parents might not notice.

Not even wanting to sit on the floor without a parent sitting near them is a bit extreme for separation anxiety, though not necessarily a problem. Most babies who show separation anxiety only get upset if the parent actually leaves their line of sight - they're just fine with crawling away from their parents as long as they can look back and see their parent is still nearby.

Yes. For me, it went on into my teens. Even today (age 21) if I am about to be at home alone, I have to ask "how long will you be out". If it is longer, I worry unless there is a phone call from my family saying that they will be out longer.

I never had it. As a toddler I could actually leave the room without my parents realizing I'm gone. My parents were looking for me all the time.

I can't say that I actually had separation anxiety as I understand separation anxiety. I've been told that as a very small child that I did in fact have issues with being separated from my folks when they'd leave me with someone to go out. I do remember having issues with that later on when I was 5 but if I was separated anyway (like for kindergarten) I soon got over it really quick. I can' t remember ever actually missing my parents in the classical sense. In my case it was just the break in continuity that bothered me.

I definitely went thru it as a kid. Going to daycare and preschool was a huge source of anxiety for me, because either my mom or dad would drop me off there, not return for hours, it was nothing like home at all, social interaction was forced on me, and I was only allowed to have my emotional support plushies at naptime. And the emotional support items I brought with me that were not plushies were disallowed completely - at the preschool I attended, they had some kind of weird rule about only allowing soft toys at naptime....which was weird cuz during free play they had all kinds of "hard" toys like cars, dinosaurs, balls, Legos, and blocks. Not that I cared about any of those much; I only wanted to stay home, with my parents, with my own toys, and that was that.

Anyway.

My mom got the idea to give me a small drawing of the face of a clock to keep with me as the day went on...that is, a drawing of what the clock would look like when she would come to get me. The idea was that whenever I felt separation anxiety during the day, I would look at the clock picture and feel reassured that my mom would come soon. It sort of become a transitional object of sorts....I must have worn that clock picture ragged after awhile.

And, I know I've mentioned this before, but I went thru separation anxiety with my aunt, too....when she would leave after a visit, or when I had to leave her, I would get really depressed and cry a lot for about a week afterward. It drove my mom crazy. I had plushies of Pikachu and one of the Seven Dwarves that my aunt gave me that I would turn to for comfort when that happened.

Absolutely I did. Severely.

I had it only for my mom.
It was actually one of the main reasons that i had to make my first visit to a psychologist.

I asked my mum about it, and she said I didn't really have it. I was more likely to wander off somewhere as a toddler, but when we had visitors over I did keep close to her.