Its been a few months since my previous psychiatrist diagnosed me with ADHD and said she wanted to test me for asperger's syndrome. Due to financial reasons and also being in a fair bit of denial, I switched psychiatrists to someone who prefers not to diagnose adults. He says that I do present with all the symptoms needed for diagnosis but he's very happy to just give me a memo stating that I am suspected to be on the spectrum. We have no disability benefits or legal protection for people with intellectual and/or developmental disabilities in my country. I'm only worried that healthcare providers won't take my phobias and anxieties seriously without a diagnosis which has, in the past caused me to become unable to communicate verbally and combative. My parents were young first time parents who didn't raise me until I was 6, so they don't have any developmental history which is the reason my psychiatrist says there's no way to give a definite diagnosis. My grandparents who cared for me from birth to 6 are all dead so all my history is gone. My psychiatrists says that for healthcare, a memo from him saying I have suspected ASD, have a strong preoccupation with fear of needles and can become nonverbal and combative shod suffice. I'm just wondering do I go on and push for a diagnosis or just leave it at that.