Cure to AS

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Hi , I'm new

Thought I share some info....

I always thought the rest of the world was just plain old stupid... and that the ignorance most people more comfortable living with gave them bliss.

I realise now that it's me that has the problem, being socially inept.

Slowly though I think I know what it is the rest of the world feels that AS types dont....
Contentment in thier fellow human beings. For the first time during a dinner party, where I was accompanied by the Caterer's Parents and Inlaws. It took me a while to realise, but as I was eating and drinking a feeling came over me..... I don't have to think! , know-one elese around the table is thinking, they are using autonomous responces in thier conversations. Topics can fly between one and the other and revert back to main topics and easily spawn subtopics which may evolve to new ones.... all without any care by the conversers which topic they are on, or even if what they say to each other makes any sence.

I realised that there is only 1 emotion I have to let go of inorder to participate: being right, and trying to follow logic. Anything and everything is fair game in a conversation in the neronormal world. If you have an experience related to the given topic, highlight it, if you read something in the newspaper , highlight it. -on the whole people don't actually care what your talking about, just as long as your talking, your normal. When you express yourself it seems important to feel content in communicating on a personal level without actually divulging anything personal. You should be able to 'pretend' you are telling everyone about yourself without giving actual real information (unless you feel you should ,eg. I have cancer).

The feeling of contentment with the people you are with is the most important aspect to try and hold onto - it's not easy, as simple bodily movement from the otherside of the table can put detriment to your want to stay.... but it's simple, get up and leave. There is nothing wrong with getting up and going to the toilet or having a smoke or just getting fresh air. In the meantime, don't forget to remmeber you should have an affinity with the group and ask if they need anything for when you get back.. eg a beer.

---I think people with AS can well and truly feel normal, just my practising a little more at the Barbeque - we all sort of have AS ,even the neorotypical,, it's just that some of us like to dwell and think too much about social circumstance, rather than feel content at being with fellow human beings.

Isn't Nirvana NICE??

Yeah I didn't mind Kurt Cobain!

-actually to come to think of it I know several people with AS symptoms....

My X .... favorite subject was Phschology - I think because she knes she was different and wanted to knw why.
Her sister - always blew off topic conversations , hobby: boys
Her father, very introverted , hobby: bike riding

Her Cousin, mechanical interest, couldn't care much about anything else.

Her uncle , mechanical interest, couldn't care much about anything else.

man there must be tons of AS sufferers out there.....

If I am making AS seem less than what it is to those that have agravated conditions... I'm sorry.

Welcome to WP!

Tim

I think you have done a great job turning something complex into something superficial ....lets call it AS Lite.Goes down easy,not to filling,wont add to your waste line(to bad it tastes like crap).

Gotta say from a personal perspective that I dont agree with your theory,or perhaps dont understand it.I can never rule that out,as it happens to me frequently.

I cant feign interest in many topics that I hear at social gatherings,have no intention of researching Brittney Spears latest breakdown(unfortunately,I am aware of it,as even the "news" appears to find it has some importance to life and bombards us with the info.)Using logic with most people....will often get you a dirty look...it's not logic they want ,it's agreement with group concencenses.Of which,I am often oblivious until after I have said something they disagree.

Your advice,does not take into account people with often co-morbid CAPD.Difficulty with understanding non-verbal language and inability to recognise faces.I also have a memory problem,not necessarily AS related which makes it difficult to remember names,numbers,statistical information....which can further inhibit my contributing to a conversation........


"I loved that book....you know,the one written by the guy about WWII,and there is a guy who is the main character who wears red boots....it's really funny and sad at the same time and has some great social commentary......I think it also has a guy who sells parachutes and fills the packs with coupons ,which doesnt help much if you have to bail out of a plane on fire and this guy gets shot and he's bleeding out and talking about how cold he is but the guy who sold the parachutes also sold the emergency kits that has the pain killer...whats it called,uhm,it's like heroin?He even covers the cotton with chocolate and tries to get soldiers to eat it.....I think there is a naked guy in a tree at his own funeral and someone who goes to another planet.....no what....I think I am mixing up Catch 22 with Slaughter House 5....they were both great books made into great movies,which is rare...usually Hollywood destroys good books.".........."Can I get you another snort of cocain,you appear to be drooling and falling into a coma"

Krex - your exactly like me.....

I don't remember a thing - I will not remmeber a persons name - I have known people all my life since I was a little boy and still don't know the persons name, or even anything about them .eg where they work. I am usually shun from the bigger picture in social groups - and I believe it has alot todo with the fact that I come off as not caring about an individual.

---But I started to realise that these things are not important.... and one of the reasons that I don't remmeber anything about a person is becuase I am not active enough in social scenarios. Yet at the same time I realised I don't have to be active -- all I have todo is stop caring. , when I do get into the swing of not caring I realised that I can remmeber some-ones name. On this dinner party I have known the mother for 20years, I now actually remmeber her name for the first time.

About Brittney Spears - yeah in cases like this it is nearly impossible to be involved - but then again 90% of the population probably don't want to hear about her either.