Asperger's and wisdom

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Ever since my late teens, people have appeared to see me as a person to go to for advice although I've never really understood why. A recent example is the death of both of my grandmothers in the last few months.

The same process applied to both:

1) Person dies/event happens
2) (Oxford-educated) Parents/other people call to ask the best way forward with the 'practical side'.
3) I explain why certain steps should be taken and where problems may occur.

These people, whether it's parental figures or 'friends', do seem to follow what I say. Is there any sort of explanation anyone can offer?

My own interpretation is the following: I deal with emotions differently, I often think in the practical without typical emotion present and apply that to every part of every day.

If people ask you for advice you must be wise. I think aspies have a certain pragmatism. NTs can sometimes get weighed down by emotional baggage.

To me there are obvious practical solutions to most problems, if they're not obvious at first then time to think will make them obvious. I very much agree with your opinion regarding pragmatism and baggage of neurotypical people.

Maybe that's one of the good strengths/traits of Autism.

Why don't you ask them why they come to you?

If I had to guess, they must be wanting to sort their problems out rationally, and an outsider's perspective, especially not one too emotional in their decision-making, can really help. My two cents.

I have asked, their only reply is "you're good with stuff like this" and I have never really understood what that means. Sorry about the questions, only recently diagnosed so am still learning - it's like living the life of someone else for a long time and then suddenly being told to be yourself.

No need to apologise, I asked jokingly, as they would be the best ones to tell you why they come to you.