MrGrumpy wrote:
--Morality is a code of conduct, a set of rules, right? But one of the characteristics of autistics is that they do not see any need to conform to anyone's rules but their own, right?
I will follow the rules of society for as long as it remains to my advantage, but I have no problem at all with the idea of going my own way, just so long as I feel reasonably certain that my actions will not come back to bite me on the bum.
How many of us have never stolen anything, nor taken advantage of somebody else's weakness or vulnerability?
Autistic people don?t live according to some self-righteousness principle or innate structure which makes them conform solely to the rules of their own. Even severely autistic children conform somewhat to the rules of their parents and school. Most do not harm others, even if they otherwise seem self-contained and their social and verbal understanding makes them beyond reachable. Even I behaved well towards others when non-verbal, and according to my mother I was actually the easiest of her children to raise.
I, like all people make mistakes, especially when emotions take over (for example I might say something mean when feeling being hurt), but ?not getting bite back to the bum? is no principle of action for me. Actions and the reason to keep reaching for good stem rather from an innate feeling. I also have a sense that doing good ultimately leads to a more enjoyable life than looking for pleasure and gains on the expense of others and then on living off excuses and lies to cover your ass and conscience. Or is it so that some people who don?t mind hurting others and merely seek own gain, don?t even need to lie, for they firmly believe they are entitled to act that way?
It's a very hard question to answer, why some do more harm than others and what (to each of us) harm means.