Clingy to people close to you

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This year is my sister's senior year in high school. Part of me doesn't want her to leave because she wants to go to a college in California (I live on the East Coast). I've been attached to her for most of my life. I also will probably miss my brother when it's my turn to go to college.

Do you ever feel clingy to others?

Yes. I am very clingy with my oldest brother. Other than my husband he is my best friend. As some of you also have, I have a very active little child part of me and that is the part that is very attached and bonded to him. I don't have that with a lot of people. Only two people have ever had a real complete attachment to the youngest parts of my personality. The other person was my uncle who passed away in May. But I totally understand how you feel about your sister. You will want to talk to her about this and find ways to stay very close to each other even though she is physically far away. This is very important.

I tend to push people away--to disassociate myself from others. I am an introverted, hermit type of person. I find prolonged contact with others to be too uncomfortable. I spent most of my life living with relatives that I didn't get along with. I am much happier and much less stressed now that I am living alone. However, it did take a little getting used to, once I was finally on my own, even though I have always been a solitary type of person. I was just used to having people around the house, for decades of my life, so living in a quiet, solo environment was somewhat strange for a while. For weeks after I started living alone, I would sleep with music on every night, but I eventually got used to being alone. The calmer environment of solo living is much nicer than what things were like when I had to live with relatives, so I don't regret the move.

I do sympathize with your situation, though. I suggest you develop some new interests to keep yourself occupied. This will help you deal with the separation better. Also, remember, you can still maintain contact with your sister, and later on your brother, by phone, email, social sites, and yes,--GASP!--snail mail. And don't forge3t! You can spend more time here at WP when you are feeling lonely for your sister!

I'm only clingy to girls I have feelings for, and then it's emotionally clingy, not really physically clingy.

I'm very clingy to my senpai. He's an artist, and he's a close friend of mine. He knows about my special needs as well. He's very sweet, and I really adore him. I thought this year was his last year, and I cried so much because of it. Turns out, it wasn't, but he understood he made a mistake as he wrote the entry though.

Anyway, I can't think of anyone else I feel clingy with unless maybe my boyfriend, but that's because he's my boyfriend. XD

I'm clingy with my cats and some of them are clingy with me.

All my life I've tended to do a paradoxical thing -- for the most part I keep people out and hold everyone at a distance, yet I seem to let ONE selected person become my whole world, if there is someone with whom I feel comfortable enough. When I was younger that used to be my mother. She was the one and only person I was clingy to. Then I latched onto the one best friend I made in high school, but needless to say that was smothering and the friendship eventually faded.

In my adult years I've managed to date and when I would find that rare mutual connection I then considered that person the only one I "let it" and would cling to, such as my one-time husband. Now there is just a friend I had to move miles away from but whom I now keep in touch via e-mail, and I guess I over-burden her now even though it's only through e-mail.

So I seem to keep the whole world away beyond my boundaries, not wanting or liking a whole lot of contact with them, but at the same time always seem to "let in through the gates" one person I've deemed trustworthy and who seems to care -- then I become too clingy to that person.

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