Do you ever have trouble being autistic?

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LokiofSassgard
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10 Sep 2014, 7:01 pm

Like, in other words... do you often get depressed when you can't do things like everyone else? I guess that's a stupid question, isn't it? What I mean is, do you ever feel like a burden? I don't know how else to put this, so I'll post my own example of what I mean.

I hate the fact that my disabilities make it hard for me to go to the Disney parks. I have little to no concept of time, often get overloaded by my emotions and stuff like that. It's also hard for me to wait in long lines. The thing is that this makes me feel really low because I can't enjoy these parks or any place the same as anyone else. It makes me feel horrible because I want to be apart of something that everyone else can do on a normal basis, but I can't because my autism and other special needs make that a huge challenge.

Do you get what I'm trying to say? If so, do you ever have trouble being autistic? If not, how do you cope with the idea that you will never function the same as those around you?


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10 Sep 2014, 7:08 pm

The trouble with being autistic for me is not being able to interact with other people very well. But lack of a social life had a lot of drawbacks in other areas as well.

BTW: I like to go to Disney parks, and one of the things I do, to make my experience batter, is to go during off season time, and go by myself.



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10 Sep 2014, 7:48 pm

I often feel inadequate and guilty because of difficulties I have meeting some responsibilities of marriage and responsible adult living that I am sure are from Spectrum related issues. I also sometimes feel a little embarrassed by my child side and some of the things she needs and how she acts sometimes. She does not act badly but sometimes the needs of my child side make me act so young that I can be embarrassed by that. Sometimes my speech becomes like that of a little kid too and that can be embarrassing as well. I also get embarrassed or nervous sometimes if I start to have more obvious stimming in public. And sometimes I feel stupid if I can't understand simple things people are saying.


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10 Sep 2014, 8:22 pm

Admittedly I do sometimes wish I could be a better friend to people. I do try to have friends with, and certainly to be friendly to neighbors and coworkers, etc. But most often I just cannot work out exactly how to maintain or form a friendship with others. I cant understand how to be truly useful to anyone in a situation that is not so practical, or to express an interest in their conversations properly. I worry at times that people just think I don't like them or I'm blowing them off, but of course I cant really help that. I do try and at times I can give some great advice to others and listen and actually help someone out. I do what I can and make it work the best I can.



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11 Sep 2014, 12:07 am

I suck at job interviews because of my "nerves", and when I do actually get the chance to work on something, my obsessive attention to detail and poor time management skills hinder me.



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11 Sep 2014, 12:42 am

I've been isolated all my life and now I am old and rely on government assistance to get by. That's trouble.



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11 Sep 2014, 12:51 am

I think if I weren't autistic, I wouldn't be dealing with as much anxiety as I have right now. That definitely prevents me from doing things I want, like driving to places I want to go, or branching out and trying new things. I also wish my sensory problems didn't ruin so many things for me. I can't enjoy places like swimming pools or busy restaurants because of all the noise and close contact with other people.


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11 Sep 2014, 1:05 am

I feel really held back and useless when it comes to such things as people networking to get a job, and the office politics that follow once you have the job. I am useless at the former, and try as much as possible to stay out of the latter. And worse I live in a place where personal connections and your social network is EVERYTHING when it comes to getting or keeping a job, and even once you have it office politics and social position jockeying and alliances are EVERYTHING when it comes to moving up or even keeping your job.

It makes me feel like an idiot and useless at one of the major factors of being an adult :(