Fears I am going to be sacked due to being an aspie

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Hello all I hope we're all well. I was encouraged by friends that I should reach out to my fellow Aspies and get advice about an issue.

Is it normal to be plotting revenge against employers who quite clearly appear to have a problem with me due to being an aspie?

Any viewpoints are most welcome and any advice as to how best to get back at them before being given the old heave ho would be most appreciated thanks.

Kind regards,

Paddy

I know you are angry and hurt BUT revenge is NEVER EVER worth it.

Please react to your pain in a healthier manner.

Be well.

While you have raised some valid concerns on your 1st post, it is important to recognise that threatening anyone is inappropriate. Like the others have posted, you might discuss your anger with someone. Hope all works out ok for you.....

Hello,

Surely they can't just sack you for no reason? Also why didn't you just simply ask your employers about the situation? IF you were to get sacked what are the possible repercussions on your end? Any dependents, rent/board to pay etc?

One thing I see no one saying is... if they are firing or sacking you for being an aspie, than that's considered as discrimination against your disability. If that is the case, then I'd consider getting the law involved with it. Unless they have a good and valid reason for sacking you and tell you that reason, they have no right to do it. I wouldn't get revenge the way you are thinking because that's rather childish, even for someone like me... sorry to say, but it's kind of true. :/

Like I said, if it really bothers you... try asking them their reasons for it if they sack you. If they don't give any reasons, I would consider suing them if you feel really inclined to 'get revenge'.

If you are coming across at work the way you came across in that post, then I can guarantee you that the reason they might fire you isn't because you have AS. Wait and see what they do. You said that an event is coming to an end and they might let you go because of that. If their workload decreases, then of course they lay people off. That's just good business sense and has nothing to do with who has AS or who doesn't. They usually let the last person hired go first. My husband was recently laid off when his company didn't have much work and it wasn't because he's got dyslexia or anything else, it was because there wasn't a need for that many employees anymore, and he didn't go around wanting to yell silly things at people for revenge. You start doing that and you can't use them as references, or word gets out that you act that way when you are let go and then nobody will hire you ever. Acting that way doesn't hurt them, and it only comes back to bite you in the ass.

Wait and see what happens. If they let you go, act like the grownup 25 year old that you are and ask if it was your work performance or something like that which caused them to choose to fire you, and find out what you can do in the future to help improve your performance or interaction with others. Temper fits don't help anything.

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Don't burn your bridges. Another potential employer might view you as a loose cannon.

One of your current co-workers may be your future manager 10 years from now so don't do something stupid that could harm you later in life. If any one person or group of people are violating your basic human rights as an employee then file a complaint to the labour board and let them handle it from there. Don't look like a vengeful person with an anger problem. You can't predict the future so hold into as many allies as you can.

Start looking for your next job NOW. Statistically more people get a new job while they are working, not while they are unemployed. Handing in your notice is the only acceptable revenge for suffering at the hands of bad management or lack of supervisory skills. Any other nastiness on your side will be found out be your next employer who will then not want to know you.

I have the same problem when it comes to revenge and getting people back. I'm not advocating doing anything illegal or hurtful but I do tend to hold a grudge for ever and I tend to go quietly with no fuss but somewhere down the line and it could be years later, I will have my day but this usually involves me simply getting one up on someone ion some way or finding myself in a position where I can throw it back in someones face because they have wronged me previously. I know it sounds very petty but I really can't help myself and it makes me feel better. I'm terrible for holding grudges but I just hate people getting away with being horrible to me for no good reason.

I have no problem with revenge, but it needs to be good revenge and not something like yelling something silly at someone and then running. It also needs to be for something serious that was done to me and not for something like laying me off of work when they no longer needed as many employees, etc.

I've gotten some pretty damn good revenge on people though. Seriously good. You need to be creative with it if you are going to get revenge on somebody and you need to make sure it won't come back to bite you in the ass. There is nothing wrong with getting revenge on someone if they do deserve it. Nothing at all. It's simply "do it yourself karma" in my opinion. Sometimes life hands you a perfect opportunity to get revenge on someone who seriously deserves it too, and I'm certainly not gonna pass that up. Like what I did to the guy who screwed me out of $1600. He ended up in prison on the same block as my BIL. (Not the BIL who lives at the lake and stole my son's xbox, this is my ex husbands brother and the only decent person in that family and I kept in touch with him and still consider him family) I told my BIL what the guy did to me and told him that I was pretty sure the guy would never pay me back so I passed the debt on to him and said he can collect and keep the money for himself. And he did. In prison. The best part about it was that my BIL told him that he was related to me and that he was collecting the money because of what the guy did to me. So not only went through some pretty rough s**t that he deserved, he was reminded that he was having to deal with it because of what he had done to me. Karma.

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- Much good advice above, particularly the parts about don't seek revenge, and about looking for a new job NOW.

- The reason you might not see what it is that they find annoying about you is pretty much one of the aspects of having autism. You will have to learn to live with this. Yes it sucks. Join the club. At least you are not in a wheel chair waiting for somebody to wipe your ass.

- When you leave, just say something like "I'm sorry it didn't work out, maybe its just not the right match.", shake hands, and leave with a smile on your face even though you want to strangle the living life out of the f***er. Go to some store and indulge yourself in something, not too costly since you just became unemployed., (Dairy Queen Peanut Buster Parfait would be personal choice).

- Even NTs get pissed and leave companies.

- My company has a policy that if a person from another company calls about a reference for a potential employer, we are to direct them to HR. HR will only confirm employment for certain dates and THAT IS IT NOTHING MORE. It is a company policy to protect themselves against lawsuits.

NO REVENGE. NO. Go squish a cockroach if it makes you feel better. Your best revenge is to get a better paying job while that boss is stuck in that hell hole.