visceral loathing of some people

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How many people here are extreme in their like or dislike of people? I have a almost physical revulsion of people who are manipulative, dishonest, and controlling (directly or indirectly). There's something about an aura of smug self satisfaction that I interpret as an encasing of slime around them. If I actually like someone, I usually keep my distance before I get too clingy. Like static wrap if I don't watch it.

Any thoughts or experiences? It's bothering me that I can't set this to the side where it belongs.

I don't like fat people. I used to be fat and had people tell me I looked better with the "extra meat." No, I tested positively and consistently for high cholesterol and blood pressure and needed to lose the extra pounds.

Yes.
It's identity. They are in love with their imaginary selves.
I've had people try to convince me to become this way.

Well...there's this one woman I can't stand but it's more aesthetic in nature.
She always wears this brown, metallic type lipstick that looks wet - It grosses me out just thinking about it. She also smiles showing all of her teeth with her lips rounded and the combination of the lipstick and the circular smile just makes me think of an anus with teeth. I can't look at her without feeling revulsion.
Sorry, but there you have it.

Without pretense, I am a really nice person (& shy). By nature, I am compassionate and thoughtful. I am forgiving if someone makes a mistake &/or feels sorry about hurting another. I do understand if there are mitigating circumstances.

And I also have the capacity to hate profoundly deeply. The distinction is that another has to earn my hate, really earn it. That is, they have demonstrate their callous cruelty to me. I rarely hate someone, but if/when that happens, I have a reptilian hate of them. Reptilian.

As a logical person, I do not believe in Hell. But if there ever were such a place as Hell, I'd wish bullies to go there.

As a logical person, I realize there is not reason to believe in hell. But then I see bullies and think "This is why I choose to believe in hell." Not because I sincerely believe it exists, but because it helps me cool down if I just accept that they will pay for their evil and meanness down the road. They might not, but I won't know.

Yeah, I know what you mean. It seems plausible that the ancient global concept of Hell serves a psychological purpose. To assure us that there is accountability, as if a mental 'checks-and-balance'.

Yes I feel physically repulsed by some people. Not so much the person but their behavior. Like someone being manipulative, deceitful, intimidating, predatory, authoritarian, etc. If they change their behavior it goes away. But most people don't change all that much.

That's a nice way to be superficial. Accept people for how they act and how their personality is, not by their appearance. Anyhow...

A lot of these internet "celebrities" (I wouldn't even say most equal that status, attention whores more like) I loathe for various reasons. A lot of the Let's Play communities biggest names are a bunch of knobs in my opinion, making horrid offensive jokes and being abilist pricks.

With me, you're either my dearest friend or harshest enemy. The concept of "acquaintance" doesn't seem to register at all. At first sight, I seem too nice. I say hello to everyone I see and try to engage them in conversation. And to me that isn't a problem.

What does get under my skin is a fake friend, and trust me, I have had many of those before. If I find out that your friendship is fake, then that is when I get mean and angry. I have made threats to such people in the past. I have blown up social media accounts before. I am nice to everyone at first, each person has three chances. If all three are used up, sorry! You're through. My demeanor may appear cute and fluffy on the outside but it has rows of 24" fangs which can and will be used.

I can change my attitude toward a person, however. I usually don't hold grudges because I like having friends. It's just that I want everyone to be friendly and accepting. Sadly that's just not the case.

Yeah, I've run into a few people I truly hated. Not many, but they are out there.

Most of the time I just loathe certain personality traits or physical characteristics. With men it's bad haircuts or weasel faces (basically the kind of guys you see on TV all the time). With women it's fake boobs, fingernails, and eyelashes. My last therapist had the worst false eyelashes I've ever seen.

people who wear their hair military short, I am on my guard around them. people who think they know better than I how I should conduct my private life. fanatics. neatnicks, likewise- a precisely ordered desk is a sign of a precisely disordered mind in terms of sociopathy, I have found from my time in the military- such folk generally strive to shove square pegs through round holes in the interest of uniformity. but I have never met a cruel or mean slob.

OMG yes, there are a lot of types I don't like, but I'll just list the ones I really can't stand:

The overly cheerful and optimistic ones, as well as the eternal complainers.
People who are pushy, clingy or condescending. Few types rub me the wrong way as much as those who won't take no for an answer, can't respect my need for distance, or the ones who'll treat you as if you're two years old.
Those who are ignorant and say a lot a stupid stuff.
Goody-goodys. The over sensitive ones and the PC crowd. Likely my least fave group.

I try not to jump to a conclusion about other people's motives for being in a certain way. However, if it becomes clear that someone has a malicious/nasty intention inside, then I deem that person to be evil and loathe him/her. I will simply try to keep away from such people but they usually try to actively (mentally) harm/hurt others, often in implicit ways. I don't blame myself for feeling in that way because there are evil people out there, but for the sake of my mental health, I will just do my best to keep away from them.

From experience I have learned that certain types of behavior/physical appearance are good indicators of what might be inside someone's mind although it could be wrong sometimes. At that stage I won't loathe a person but I will be wary. For example, plain-looking women (little makeup, dull clothing, not very girly etc) tend to be nicer inside than those that put a lot of effort into looking girly, cute and innocent. I can't stand those cunning "cute and innocent" types when they prove to be rotten inside. That's just an example.

This made me laugh.

All the time. I instinctively get repulsed by people who are on the opposite end of the spectrum. I've called those people extreme NTs, but I know that's not a good name for them. They aren't exactly "normal" and they do stand out in a room of regular NTs. I think some NTs get annoyed by them, but they probably don't get repulsed. If their traits are extreme enough they start to creep out average NTs as well. Some of those people are good people, but I still get annoyed at them. I think I mostly dislike them because I just don't understand them. Just like they can't understand us.