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Can you tell me, did any of you, who have Asperger's ever when you were in your teens become isolated in your home for any long period of time. If you did, did it come to an end and how, or are you still a recluse?

I used to leave the house most every day, some weeks were different and all but usually ended up with the very few very close friends I had trying to get me to go out and all. As and adult, I've become more reclusive and all after not having people trying to get me to go out and all. Especially where I don't have the social supports of others.

Sadly your not going to like my third answer answer...

As a child I was 'the little builder' so I had to go to the garage to build my stuff - but even with the grage outside I would usually bring to tools to the bedroom - yeah my mum loved me for it, especially when I would build oily things on the bed.

A motorbike at 12 - pretty obvious - the family would take my 'latest' motorbike (I had 7 in the space of 4 years), when we went camping (or is it we went camping because I had a motorbike?) -camping and scouts in itself got me out too - to the point where I love camping - but I realise that camping is much better in a small group or by myself, actualy scratch the small group, by myself or with a spouse.

Marijuanna. --I couldn't have my parents knowing.... but even the use of an illict drug didn't push me to go outside enough - I got cocky and thought I could do it indoors, in my bedroom - with my brother in it (what's that smell) ,, when I stopped smoking I went back to my old self.

--Everything was in my bedroom... the library, the workshop, the Datacentre, the music centre(instruments and stereo), the design studio, the study room...I actually built custom furniture in black/white grey tone at the age of 11. (My father was a chippie - not that he helped - alright he preped the spray gun the first time) - I think that my Autsim was cured by simply turning me into a Serf - I had to work for my parents at the age of 7, just like an apprentice in the middle ages - come to think of it, I wonder if autism existed in British Coal miners town at the turn of the previous century?

--- As an adult though and now working as a chippie.. my typical day is working and then sitting on the computer - I think this has become my hobbie... today I 'fiddle' with the computer and waste my time on the net. -it's very addictive you know - I am telling myself to stop being on Wplanet and just get over it .. so you have ASpieism - I promise myself I'll stop in two weeks - let's see who I go!

----When my long term friends ask me to go somewhere - not so easy... they actually tease me about it, I am famous for saying 'I don't know' whenever I am invited to an event... on the whole for the last ten years I have been forced - my friends realise that my overall appearance when I am with themm seems to them that I am enjoying myself, so they have beomce adept, at just showing up and telling me to get in the car, let's go, your going and that's it -- is usualy what they say. --So yeah I am lucky! , if it were upto me I wouldn't have gone anywhere outside my bedroom, and wouldn't of had a 4 year relationship, heck I wreckon I would still be a Vig.

---Sometimes I want to go, but know what to look forward to... a time of unawkwardness and discomfort ... I am usully very tired after being anywhere with my friends, even small little outings... but sometimes I'm not, where I feel that - oh that was better than usual! ,it's those better than usual feelings that yo have to take away with yourself, and hopefully gain somesort of hope for the next time you go out - though fo me I have had tons of good times, and still feel like I just don't want to go.

Well, I had to go to school every day! If you don't count that, I probably left the house an average of once a week.

Every day? I had some friends I went out with all the time. Now? Well, I go outside when I need to, such as shop or work. I burn rather quickly, so, thats always been an additional factor in my 'not going outside' lifestyle.

Yes, I mean obviously, most people go to school until they are 16 or 18...so that question maybe should be altered to ask how often people went out excluding their schooltime?

Apart from school, I only went out once a week generally through much of my teens, although from 13-15, I went rollerskating 2-3 times a week as it was my obsession at the time. Other than that, I spent a lot of time in my room, writing poetry, copying out lists...and latterly with my anorexia, copying out calorie intake lists. I did go downstairs sometimes as the large tvs were down there and the videos, and I liked to watch certain films every night. But I would usually do this alone as luckily, we had 2 living rooms...a small one which my mother would inhabit, and a larger one which I would use.

I was able to go out and about as a teen, but I have become very reclusive starrting around age 25 and now at 33 I'm close to a hermit.

I used to joke about being a Hermitt to my X...

I wanna be a Hermitt!

What's a hermitt?

It's one of those guys that live in the bush.

What you want to settle down in the country?

No.... the build themsleves a hut out of bark, and only visit civilsiation to buy cornflakes.

--Uhh! - I'm not living in a Hut! If you ever did that you can forget about me ever coming to visit you!

hardly, and if i wasnt home id get upset like you wouldnt believe. especially if i had to go anywhere that i didnt want to go to, like the supermarket.

Yeah it became similiar to the way I was... just before I had my oldest son, I started to withdraw from a lot of things and just never really felt the need to go attempt to socialize except on the net. I only leave the house if I really need to now.

Aside from school I didn't go anywhere else much as a teen except to accompany a parent shopping sometimes. But part of the isolation was forced. I mean I grew up with a mom that is probably low spectrum, plus schizo and OCD who told me to go to my room and be quiet the minute I got in the door from school. So I was always in my room reading, listening to music through headphones or playing guitar. I was called out when it was time to eat at the table or sometimes I would sneak downstairs and watch tv. My mom had strange rules that included who I was allowed to speak to even at school and she also did not allow me to go anywhere with friends. Also friends were not allowed to call me and believe it or not I actually made a few friends in high school though I had almost no friends in earlier years.

I was out of the house pretty much every day as a teenager, and not just because of school. Besides activities such as band, I would go to the beach with a group of friends, or just go for a bike ride by myself.

When I was a teenager I used to leave the house every day. I couldn't imagine staying indoors a whole week, let alone a month.

school????

When I was a teenager... I only went to school and to physiotherapy. Other than that I stayed home ALL the time.

I had to leave the house almost every day. Other people had this strange notion that I had to go to school...

A few weeks ago I had a week's vacation. From Saturday afternoon (when I returned home from grocery shopping) until Wednesday morning (when I went over to my mom's place), the only time I left my apartment was to do laundry Sunday afternoon... and the laundry room is next door down the hall in my apartment building.

If I was to win a great big huge lottery prize, I'd buy a penthoue apartment, a satellite dish, a kick-@$$ computer system with high-speed Internet, and a couple of cats. If I could get groceries delivered, I'd never have to leave the apartment.