Pissed off people that are important to you?

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I've just had an experience of really making someone angry by being annoying and unable to control my emotions, and they have stopped communicating with me.
Before this, the person was very nice and has tried to help me with my issues without knowing my AS condition. After that I tried to apologise and told them about my condition but they would not accept my apology, and is now completely ignoring me. I'm feeling very upset about how this happened and it seems there is no way to repair the damage any more

I'm feeling terrible because of this... Should I leave them alone or try to apologise again later? I'm not sure which is more normal...
Has anyone experienced similar situations and have any advice for me

It's not exactly the same for me, usually end up feeling conflicted, I usually end up despising people that I really want to be friends with because of the massive unassailable wall of BS that NTs expect you to knock down whereas they just sprt of try to distance themselves from me. Though I do know how it feels when someone who was being really nice suddenly seems to loath or not tolerate you (why can't they just be consistent?)

But as for the matter at hand, I think that the issue might be that you need to sort of...move on. NTs seem to have a habbit of leaving things unexplained and then ignoring your desires for an explanation for their attitude. However, they are also incredibly inconsistent so maybe if you start being nice and approachable, copying the way you were beore rather than dwelling on how to repent they would forget about it eventually.

This happened to me many times when I was younger. However, in my case I wasn't even aware what I had done to annoy other people, so it made it very difficult to form an apology to those who I thought I had annoyed, who I found were now snubbing me. I think there is little you can do to retrieve the situation, so I think the best advice is for you to move on with your life and form relationships with people who are more tolerant.

Personally, I would give it some time. The friendship might still be redeemable. But I would wait for awhile - at last a month or more and then try to patch things up - if this relationship is important to you. I have certainly pissed people off unintentionally - and for that matter some NT's have pissed me off too - sometimes to the point where I didn't want to deal with them. But, if there is a real spark to you friendship - it may come back in time. But I suggest waiting awhile before you initiate any further contact.