Too Caught Up in My Own Life For Friends

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I wonder if any of you feel the same way or can relate to this.

In my life, especially when I was in school, I had a couple of boys that befriended me over the years but as soon as they'd move out of the area, different school, basically disappeared from right out in front of me, I'd forget about them. I've always likened this to having horse blinkers on. That's EXACTLY what it's like.

It's not like I didn't like them or anything. It's just the same even with family. If someone disappears out of my life for any length of time, I seem to just forget about them.

It doesn't make me feel like a bad person or anything because I know there's no intention involved. It just happens.

Do I value friendship? I don't think so. I've never really been given any good reason to value friendship. I do fine on my own - in fact, that's how I prefer it.

What's wrong with me??????????

I'm not sure there's anything wrong with you, I do that too...
Sometimes people try to keep in touch with me but I rarely reach out to others; I think that comes down to personality as much as anything.
Remember, it's a two way street- they can contact you too!

My advice would be not to stress about it. I think it's actually atypical TO keep in touch with everyone from ones' past!

Well, from the other side of things, it is quite difficult to always be the one taking the initiative in friendship.

There are a few people I know who I do think like me, but I am not sure because they do not reach out, almost never! Certainly not enough to forge a real friendship. Life creates obstacles, and one must make an effort to get around them in order to have relationships with people. I guess I am just not worth getting around the obstacles.

My life is extremely busy, too, and yet I make an effort to reach out to some people. It is not returned. What shall I think about myself, then?

Make the effort. It helps other people know you care. Coming from someone who cares about others but doesn't feel the love in return (outside of my family.)

But there's more (I sound like a telemarketer). When I was in hospital for depression, during aftercare, I found out that a lot of the outpatients were seeing each other outside of the hospital. Now, I'm a really nice, kind, gentle man. I'm always polite. What's wrong with me? Why don't they want to form relations with me?



I've been nothing but nice to humans. Why don't they want to befriend me. What's wrong with me? What's different with me? Do I have something written on my face that I can't see?


I don't know.

I've had this problem a lot too. I suspect there's some hidden signal they read or send.