One could be forgiven for assuming so, but I am reminded periodically of people who are scared of me who are named and also who remain nameless. Nothing is ever done about it, other than me becoming anxious that people are scared of me. Another accommodation says she is supposed to facilitate three way meetings with staff members who have issues with me or my behavior, in an effort to resolve issues and promote communication and understanding, but this is never done. In fact, when three such staff were made known to me in our last meeting, who were either scared of me or had concerns about interactions with me, she named my behavior as aggressive at the outset, before even asking me anything at all. In fact it was on the paper she gave me, twenty minutes before the meeting (I am supposed to receive advance notice of topics to be discussed at meetings to give me time to proc ess ahead of time; twenty minutes does not cut it for me, but that is just an added layer of frustration for me. At any rate, when she brought these three to my attention, and I almost immediately said that I wanted a meeting with them so we could talk through whatever it was, and even though this is in fact one of my accommodations, she first said she would have to check with HR if that was okay, and when I challenged this, that she would have to consult with the individuals named, and expressed doubt that such a meeting would help. It was demoralizing. Her response is basically that every time anyone tries to talk to me about anything, I get defensive and angry and start talking about how my rights are being violated. It is almost unbearable. I do not do any such thing, for the record. I have done it, but only with good cause, not by inventing something big out of nothing. Which I do not feel I am doing now, either. But maybe I am. Who knows anymore.
22 Oct 2014, 8:03 pm
