Has anyone ever either consciously or subconsciously

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pretended to be a different person?

So much so that I'm not sure who I really am anymore.

same here - what was upsetting was that my parents don't know me and they had to ask several people whether I had my passed my degree or not.

It's confusing how much am I pretending to be a different person when I contain myself to try to keep others happy. From that perspective, a lot. That's neither all good nor all bad though. And I'm not sure it's what you're asking.

I mean like pretending to be less or more intelligent that you actually are- I never realized I did it until recently.

You mean "playing dumb"? Or the opposite:pretending to know things you dont know?

Or do mean pretending to be a specific other person?

well in my case it would be playing dumb. My bf who has aspergers - pretended he didn't have it and pretended he had a degree.

I don't know who I am and it has been causing me great distress recently. I don't pretend to be things I'm not, but sometimes I do come across in ways that are not true to me. I come across as unintelligent and apathetic, but I am neither of these things in the greater picture. It's not an issue of doing it subconsciously, it's just a communication issue.

I used to dress up as Michael Myers for Halloween, and my internal personality would change. I had the walk, breathing pattern, and basic movements all down. After a while though, the changes started happening away from that holiday, and it genuinely scared me. That's one of the reasons I left horror films behind.

yes perhaps it is a communication issue more than anything- I am having someone from an organization coming round to speak to me about a communication group so perhaps I should mention it to them and see what they can suggest.

Yes, especially in situations and with people I am not used to or in very physically intimate situations. Usually it is another adult person I admire, either male or female. It doesn't go beyond the confines of my own personality though. It's not intentional and is often almost subconscious. I can't do it intentionally, really. Doesn't work the same. I have often felt as if my personality or the way I interact with people, if I am trying to look "normal", is constructed of several different people's words and mannerisms. I have also "played dumb" for several reasons: to avoid offending, to avoid sounding conceited, and to avoid an interaction that I don't know how to handle like someone posted the other day, about answering literally even when you know what the other person really means, and also to avoid answering a question or implication that I don't want to answer.

I do that all the time haha
I would change my behaviors, expression, physical appearance a little.

People talk to me in a patronising way- they seem to be unaware of my capabilities. People think of me as a girl who has special needs and went to a special needs school- and make such a big deal about me because I am one of the only ones who from that sort of background with a degree. In that respect I want to be treated like everyone else.