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RetroGamer87
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16 Nov 2014, 4:31 pm

This might seem like a simple thing but it's something that's been bugging me for a while. I don't have any particular difficulty maintaining eye contact but sometimes when I do it too long I start thinking, am I staring?

It could be in a long conversation or while someone is making a long speech. After a while I start glancing to the side because when I was a kid I got accused of staring. So in situations that require eye contact, how much is too much?



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16 Nov 2014, 4:41 pm

I would like to know the answer too :D


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16 Nov 2014, 7:19 pm

With my ASD it appears my eyes aren't moving when in fact they are, though the appearance is getting better.
I read and use one thing about eye contact in an interviews book: to prevent staring move your eyes in a triangle pattern,
formed by going from the other person's nose to his/her eyes and back.
It works though at my last interview it wasn't perfect.



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17 Nov 2014, 12:54 am

CloverDiamond5 wrote:
With my ASD it appears my eyes aren't moving when in fact they are, though the appearance is getting better.
I read and use one thing about eye contact in an interviews book: to prevent staring move your eyes in a triangle pattern,
formed by going from the other person's nose to his/her eyes and back.
It works though at my last interview it wasn't perfect.


That is very interesting to know. While I have a difficult time looking at someones eyes, when I really try I've been accused of staring. Which, I've been told comes off as 'spooky' or 'creepy'.



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17 Nov 2014, 1:36 am

I tend to focus on the eye brows and predict their eye movement from them. I also have a terrible time at just blanking out and focus out of the world which some call creepy.