Do you interact with your neighbors?

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I don't really sometimes I used to have a friend who I talk to but I was there and he was very nice.

No. Just the fact of them living near you doesn't seem like a logical reason to befriend them.
I'm very particular about who I befriend. I wish I could have more friends though.

I've seen 'em but I don't interact with 'em. I don't usually interact with anyone unless I can't get out of it.

Only indirectly, via the occasional screaming meltdown, where they can probably overhear every word... >_>

And see the police cars which have appeared outside our house a few times.

(The only neighbours I ever interacted closely with was an American family who lived next door to us for a year. I was 10-11 at the time and missed them when they went back to the states.)

I'm not really interacting with our direct neighbours (we have one half of the building, they have the other side and all that divides us are two entrances and a low fence) except for the obligatory friendly "Hello!" when I see one of them.
This has other reasons though than pure unwillingness or not being able to. If they were very polite and truly friendly people I would actually force myself to exchange some words in pointless smalltalk, yet this is not the case. When our house had a small leak resulting in water damage last summer in 2013 (the many long lasting reparations were one of the many reasons for my long absence from Wrong Planet), they acted in a fake friendly way implying they would be willing to sue us if we wouldn't take responsibility. But how can one take responsibility for something purely coincidental when one has been on holidays far away? As my grandparents were taking care of the house, they were even blaming it on them when they managed to catch one of them alone which even resulted in my grandfather having depressions for a certain period of time - not exactly nice actions they did there!
This, and a series of other various little actions that followed simply sparked a certain dislike in me. The occasional forced smalltalk from before just isn't worth my time anymore, they are labeled as false people in my eyes from that event on who simply put on an act to be friendly but in reality are people who do not wish for the other to have a better time than them because they are jealous (very evident).
Surprising, how one's views on someone can change after 11 years of living next to each other due to something trivial like that once one gets to see the true character of the people.

Other than my direct neighbours, there are my less direct ones.
Recently, a new building was finished facing ours directly on the other end across the small street I live in and many new people moved in. I still don't recognize their faces and I believe they see me way too few to know I'm one of their neighbours as I leave my home roughly once a week at best, so there is absolutely no interaction. My brother once said hello to one and I was asking him who that was, not knowing it until he explained that it's one of the new neighbours who greeted him once. Of course, my family's interaction was also limited to greeting. I guess that's what we just can do best.

There is a family, one could consider them one of the indirect neighbours (certain distance but no building in between, tricky to explain) which we have had some more indepth conversations with but it has been quiet for a while now.
And then there are our neighbour's neighbours who are quite some nice people which I tend to greet whenever I recognize one of them. Unfortunately I only realize it's them when they are doing something in front of their house due to the previously limited contact. Unlike our direct neighbours, they even attempted to help when our house had the leak by closing the water connection and removing the water from our cellar with a pump. Our direct neighbours on the other hand just called the fire brigade because they noticed water leaking through the wall into their cellar so I assume their "help" was of egoistic nature rather than altruism.

Anyway... so, this is the interaction with our neighbours in a nutshell.
You see, not a lot going on, just greetings.

When I see them outside I always say hi and maybe chat a little. We are close to one of our neighbors because we help each other out a lot like she borrows our lawn mower and does both lawns or if she makes a lot of food she shares it with us and stuff like that. Our other next door neighbors moved out but we helped each other with house stuff and we were friends too. The husband helped me when I painted our garage and he has helped my husband with projects and we have helped them with stuff too. Our neighborhood has some very nice people and whenever people are outside they always say hi to each other and sometimes even hang out together. So we are lucky to have nice neighbors. But everywhere we lived we have always been blessed with nice friendly neighbors so that is really great. But other than saying hi and helping each other out with house or garden stuff we don't socialize too much. My husband and I love sports so we are always off kayaking or biking or skiing and snowboarding. So we are not around all the time and when I am home I spend a lot of time doing chores or hanging out with you guys.

I have one neighbor who has been very nice to me. He has done a lot for me since I moved to my current place. I sometimes talk with him for an hour or two in his place. I pretty much only greet other neighbours. Luckily there are no troublesome ones around.

I've been in a townhouse apartment for two years now & I don't interact with the neighbors. It's not that I wouldn't want to but I'm not going to knock on people's doors when I don't know them so I can make friends.

It is very important for me to get to know my neighbors. I have told them that I am Aspie and Misophonic because I have no problem knocking on someone's door or car window to ask them to turn their music down. And since my neighbors know I have these conditions they tend to be very cooperative and nice about it if I ask them to do that.

I've lived in the same apartment for 4 years, and I've never talked to any of my neighbors, and I'm not even sure if I saw all of them. The only times I interact with them is when I pick up my mail down at the post boxes, and only say hello. The reason, is I don't care about them, they are not my friends, I don't want to be friends with them and I'm not interested in them.

I fix their cars and stuff.

Sure, Rick and I like to do landscaping together and every once in a while we go sea fishing, mostly for sturgeon. We've polished off quite a few ales together over the years

No I avoid all of them.